"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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fertileTurtle

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Why are some women so pissy about being touched?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not many people like being touched, let alone have their private space invaded by a stranger.
 
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I've never had objections to kino on the arm. Sometimes, when I go in for a hug, there's an objection. I don't go in for a hug until I personally feel a connection. At that point, if she objects, she probably has issues. One person that did object when I tried to give her a hug, came out of a hurtful relationship. Her defense was that she first wanted to be friends a long time.

If you just touched the arm or shoulder, that's cool. If you went for her jewels, and had just met, that's a different story. Need details to say, but you get the point.
 
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lol what kind of touch you talking about here?

Ofcourse they woudn't like some random dude coming up behind them and feeling up on them...

but they wouldnt mind some touching(kino) when you guys are talking to each other.
 
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Personal space is a big deal for some people. Personally, I hate being touched by people I don't know very well, let alone strangers.

What kind of kino are you referring to? Because the arm/shoulder is universally okay, but if you don't know the girl and are touching her all over, yeah, I can definitely understand why she'd be "pissy".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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girl_in_a_boy_forum said:
Personal space is a big deal for some people. Personally, I hate being touched by people I don't know very well, let alone strangers.
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I'm the same way. I don't prefer when people I barely know guy or gal stick there arms around me shoulder like we are best buds.
 
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