“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Cheeky_James

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I have to post this.

I recently saw someone (whom I won’t mention ) give an example of Dua Lipa and her partner Callum Turner. And rate her a 9 and him a 7-8 guy. Theorising it was more than just his looks etc that got him Dua Lipa.

I had to google Callum Turner.
(Actor and former UK fashion Model)

Guys. If anyone here thinks Callum Turner is a 7-8 ya need your head checked and SMV meter recalibrated. Asap.
Turner is Top Tier guy - aka Tall, Dark & Handsome. A 10/10.



as is this guy Ghandy


And this guy Jaric


This low smv rating madness needs to stop!!
CJ
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Atom Smasher

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You’re very focused on looks. Your job is to make her FEEL.
Looks can sometimes be a foot in the door, but let me tell you, you can easily alter a woman’s assessment of how you look by making her feel good vibes about you. Unlike men where a woman’s looks are locked in, it’s entirely different with women. Their perceptions are malleable.
I think that the looks focus holds men back more than any other factor. It’s an unnecessary barrier that men create for themselves. It’s there because you believe it’s there.
I learned in my 50s that less than stellar genetic looks can easily be compensated for. I simply decided to believe it once the light was turned on in my little brain.
Concern about genetic looks is folly, and comparison is your enemy. Do what you can to maximize your looks within reason, and then make sure your wardrobe is neat and clean, and you will be more than halfway there. The rest is knowing that you can develop your personality to make her FEEL good things. That’s another study in and of itself.
 

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I have to post this.

I recently saw someone (whom I won’t mention ) give an example of Dua Lipa and her partner Callum Turner. And rate her a 9 and him a 7-8 guy. Theorising it was more than just his looks etc that got him Dua Lipa.

I had to google Callum Turner.
(Actor and former UK fashion Model)

Guys. If anyone here thinks Callum Turner is a 7-8 ya need your head checked and SMV meter recalibrated. Asap.
Turner is Top Tier guy - aka Tall, Dark & Handsome. A 10/10.



as is this guy Ghandy


And this guy Jaric


This low smv rating madness needs to stop!!
CJ
The bizarre homoerotic obsession with Chad continues.

BTW, that 7/8 is an ACTOR!

Status, consensus, social proof and criminality and transgressive behavior far outweigh looks.

Gee, I wonder how this happened?! IMG_0186.jpeg
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Manure Spherian

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Wow, how come this guy had women throwing themselves at at him? IMG_0192.jpeg
 
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The bizarre homoerotic obsession with Chad continues.

BTW, that 7/8 is an ACTOR!

Status, consensus, social proof and criminality and transgressive behavior far outweigh looks.

Gee, I wonder how this happened?! View attachment 15947
99.999999% of men won't ever achieve the status of Joe Pesci. Guy had millions, was status-maxxed so of course he could punch through the roof and get a fit blonde 7-8/10. He was a 4/10 in his prime.

If Joe Pesci was say just a factory operative, plumber, builders hand, van driver on a normal or normal-low income, he'd get an overweight perhaps obese, ugly woman, even if he 'lifted' weights and was lean & fit in his spare time. He'd be with a 2 or 3/10 fat ugly woman.

I just have to laugh at you guys using rich high status men as 'proof' that men can date desirable-looking women.

Tons of things have changed since the 80's and 90's as well, such as internet, cellphones, smartphones and double the amount of overweight/obese/ugly people compared to 30 years ago etc. You're now not only competing with not just a few local men for 1 slim average girl, but thousands of men nationally and internationally for a non-overweight "Mid" woman. Not that 7.5/10 blonde hottie seen with Pesci in the picture, i'm talking a non-fat "5" here.
 
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I just have to laugh at you guys using rich high status men as 'proof' that men can date desirable-looking women.
Did ya see the post I responded to?

And yes, women bypass good looking men for high status and criminal men. Hence fraternity doofuses monopolize college sexual markets.
 

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You’re very focused on looks. Your job is to make her FEEL.
Looks can sometimes be a foot in the door, but let me tell you, you can easily alter a woman’s assessment of how you look by making her feel good vibes about you. Unlike men where a woman’s looks are locked in, it’s entirely different with women. Their perceptions are malleable.
I think that the looks focus holds men back more than any other factor. It’s an unnecessary barrier that men create for themselves. It’s there because you believe it’s there.
I learned in my 50s that less than stellar genetic looks can easily be compensated for. I simply decided to believe it once the light was turned on in my little brain.
Concern about genetic looks is folly, and comparison is your enemy. Do what you can to maximize your looks within reason, and then make sure your wardrobe is neat and clean, and you will be more than halfway there. The rest is knowing that you can develop your personality to make her FEEL good things. That’s another study in and of itself.
Sensei Atom Smasher is back!!!! wooohooo how you been oh Sage one?
 

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Hi Guys
A special someone asked me to pass on a message.; so I’ve typed it out for him.
——-

Hi guys,
It’s me , David Ghandy!
My dear friend CJ has told me about your great discussion forum. It sounds so cool! I just want to tell you all that you are correct. It’s all about that CONFIDENCE. I remember when I was a young man, believe it or not, I actually lacked confidence too ( yes even me )… but then I just turned around, looked in the mirror, and that was the end of that sentence.
So keep it up guys.
Just Be Confident Bros!
And keep going strong with your self improvement activities forever.
Hey, I’m just like you guys. I put my pants on one leg at a time too ;)
Regards,
Your friend,
The rediculously handsome, charming, debonair and suave (because-that’s-just-what-I-look-like-and none-of- that--can-actually-be-learned)
David ‘Dandy’ Ghandy .CMSM.

PS - please accept this signed photograph of my face. Note I cannot actually read or write ( or do most any normal everyday things )so I just sign it with an ‘X’. Thanks, DG




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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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UK manc

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I have to post this.

I recently saw someone (whom I won’t mention ) give an example of Dua Lipa and her partner Callum Turner. And rate her a 9 and him a 7-8 guy. Theorising it was more than just his looks etc that got him Dua Lipa.

I had to google Callum Turner.
(Actor and former UK fashion Model)

Guys. If anyone here thinks Callum Turner is a 7-8 ya need your head checked and SMV meter recalibrated. Asap.
Turner is Top Tier guy - aka Tall, Dark & Handsome. A 10/10.



as is this guy Ghandy


And this guy Jaric


This low smv rating madness needs to stop!!
CJ
Any theories about when Clean Shaven works?

I much prefer being clean shaven as it feels so much cleaner and comfortable. Two days growth seems a bit of a sweet spot for me, when it's not too "rough" but there's a good full beard shadow .
 

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You’re very focused on looks. Your job is to make her FEEL.
Looks can sometimes be a foot in the door, but let me tell you, you can easily alter a woman’s assessment of how you look by making her feel good vibes about you. Unlike men where a woman’s looks are locked in, it’s entirely different with women. Their perceptions are malleable.
I think that the looks focus holds men back more than any other factor. It’s an unnecessary barrier that men create for themselves. It’s there because you believe it’s there.
I learned in my 50s that less than stellar genetic looks can easily be compensated for. I simply decided to believe it once the light was turned on in my little brain.
Concern about genetic looks is folly, and comparison is your enemy. Do what you can to maximize your looks within reason, and then make sure your wardrobe is neat and clean, and you will be more than halfway there. The rest is knowing that you can develop your personality to make her FEEL good things. That’s another study in and of itself.
I had you on ignore for some reason idk why (don’t remeber doing that ) but re first bolded sentence.
This is a common PUA spin and reframe on the truth.
Dude when a woman sees a handsome man. She will indeed FEEL all those natural wonderful FEELINGS… and that is the end of that sentence.
David DeAngelo was dead righr about one thing. “ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE”
Don’t know how he managed to sell 20+ DVD courses after that one , he was a great marketer. but anyway, I digress.
It’s either there or it’s not. And if it ain’t there you can’t put it there.it all happens in the blink of an eye mate.
If it doesn’t show up in his Looks. A woman can’t see a guys great self improvement efforts, so they don’t really matter that much.
So it’s 90% looksmaxxing and about 10% of confidence/game would be the correct mix of ‘strategies’
So Game becomes just (a) reading IOIs (b) confident approach (c) showing her your safe /relaxing her and (d) escalatiion to sex

That’s about the 10% of Game.
Pretty simple.
 
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A weekend later, three new threads, and I’m more confused than ever about what OP’s point is or what case he’s trying to make :confused:
 

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You’re very focused on looks. Your job is to make her FEEL.
Looks can sometimes be a foot in the door, but let me tell you, you can easily alter a woman’s assessment of how you look by making her feel good vibes about you. Unlike men where a woman’s looks are locked in, it’s entirely different with women. Their perceptions are malleable.
I think that the looks focus holds men back more than any other factor. It’s an unnecessary barrier that men create for themselves. It’s there because you believe it’s there.
I learned in my 50s that less than stellar genetic looks can easily be compensated for. I simply decided to believe it once the light was turned on in my little brain.
Concern about genetic looks is folly, and comparison is your enemy. Do what you can to maximize your looks within reason, and then make sure your wardrobe is neat and clean, and you will be more than halfway there. The rest is knowing that you can develop your personality to make her FEEL good things. That’s another study in and of itself.
Your attractiveness to her seems to increase the more she actually likes you, which in large part aligns with what you are taking about.
 
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