"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Too Soon To Invite Over To Hang Out???

DharmaBear

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Hey gang,

I just set up a date with a HB 8 I work with (we're going skydiving - not a bad first date!).

Things are going well with us, good flirting, kino, etc. It's moving slowly, and something that's developed over the last year at work (it's not always a good idea to be overDJish at work, so I was easy with the flirting and careful until I felt certain she dug me).

We just set up this date yesterday, and it's for a week and a half from now (that's just how our schedules worked out, vs. when the skydiving place is open).

My question: Would it be AFC of me to call her now and invite her over to hang out and watch a DVD with me tonight or tomorrow night (I know it's something she wants to see), or since we finally cemented this date yesterday is it too soon and/or pushy? Should I just wait 'til this skydiving date?

Help!

-Dharma
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by DharmaBear
Hey gang,

I just set up a date with a HB 8 I work with (we're going skydiving - not a bad first date!).

Things are going well with us, good flirting, kino, etc. It's moving slowly, and something that's developed over the last year at work (it's not always a good idea to be overDJish at work, so I was easy with the flirting and careful until I felt certain she dug me).

We just set up this date yesterday, and it's for a week and a half from now (that's just how our schedules worked out, vs. when the skydiving place is open).

My question: Would it be AFC of me to call her now and invite her over to hang out and watch a DVD with me tonight or tomorrow night (I know it's something she wants to see), or since we finally cemented this date yesterday is it too soon and/or pushy? Should I just wait 'til this skydiving date?

Help!

-Dharma
if u can be confident about it, go for it, depending on her IL (wich u said u got a good feel of) u can watch with friends or alone, its not bad with friends if they got their own girls or w/e
 

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Wait till you skydive. It's should be such a fn adrenaline rush, she'd fall in love with ya. :D

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See, that's what I was thinking - that the adrenaline, etc. from skydiving will really escalate the emotions, and then BAM! She's putty in my hands. I do plan on that.

But, I'm worried that it's just too long between now and then to wait and see her outside of work. I usually don't set up dates 12 days in advance. Besides, it would be nice just to hang. Thoughts?



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Jerk off and find something else to do. Stop thinking about it. Next thing you know, you're gonna have rescue scenarios in your head.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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