"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Too Picky?

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Its been a while since I've posted so let me provide ya'll with some background info

-Graduating senior
-Apart of Fraternity
-Popular at my school
-yadda yadda yadda

Anyways was in a relationship, relationship didn't work out, in the few months we've been broken up I've banged 5 chicks...whats the problem you ask? Lately I've been extra picky...like I be messin with some good lookin chicks, but I always find somethin about em physically to make me not wanna pursue em on a further level..

One girl has a bangin body, but her voice annoys me
One girl is real cute, but her feet ain't on point
One girl has some big ol titties! but she breathes like a fat person
One girl thick as hell, but yea her feet ain't on point either
Last girl i banged is built like a model, which is the problem, lol she's too tall

Is this just a shallow hal thing I got goin or does it have something to do with my ex, who's been looking fat as of lately by the way lol, I mean is it ok to be this picky or what? DON JUANS HELP ME OUT!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It's okay to be picky. Don't be too self-conscious about it. Know that you might be breaking a few hearts and burning a few bridges though.

Most Don Juans will laud you for "not settling for anything less", but just be sure you don't make any girls go suicidal.
 

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That MIGHT be it...but ok thats a lost cause if I'm doin it like that because my ex is hispanic and I've been messin wit all black girls...and yea I mean how do I get over that if thats the case of trying to find a clone of my ex
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sincere said:
That MIGHT be it...but ok thats a lost cause if I'm doin it like that because my ex is hispanic and I've been messin wit all black girls...and yea I mean how do I get over that if thats the case of trying to find a clone of my ex
When then you need a light skinned black girl with long straight weave..:D
 

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lol! i hate weave!!!!! I don't know what the solution is honestly
 

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If you just got out of a relationship, why are you trying to get into another? Too scared of being alone? lol

Just date and hang with your boys. Forget all of that crap! Have fun, and when you're not looking, she'll come to you. That's what they want - someone that's not looking for them.
 

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It could also be that you're just not very into any of these new girls on a personal level. It seems to me that some of these physical hang-ups that you have with these girls wouldn't be such a big deal if you were just more attracted by their personality.

I've never dated a 10, and I could tell you physical imperfections about every girl I've been with - but in each case there was something else about them that made them worth keeping around.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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