"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tonality

jocca

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Hey guys just hoping someone maybe able to give me a few pointers on tonality or maybe some links as to good sites or downloads.

Its part of my improvement program (first was body language) any help would be greatly appreciated thanks in advance
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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1) RECORD YOUR VOICE ON YOUR CELL PHONE OR COMPUTER THEN PLAY IT BACK to hear what you sound like to the rest of the world.

2) SLOW DOWN your rate of speech.

3) LOWER YOUR TONE, ENUNCIATE

4) dont't forget to pause every so often

5) PRACTICE INFRONT of a mirror

6) increase your vocabruary.........knowledge is power

7) smile yes smile when you speak

8) think before you speak......always have something clever to say

9) TWO EARS ONE MOUTH-listen twice as much as you speak, still waters run deep, less is more philosophy

10) laydown when talking on the phone......being in a relaxed mood = sexier tone
 

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COD said:
1) RECORD YOUR VOICE ON YOUR CELL PHONE OR COMPUTER THEN PLAY IT BACK to hear what you sound like to the rest of the world.

2) SLOW DOWN your rate of speech.

3) LOWER YOUR TONE, ENUNCIATE

4) dont't forget to pause every so often

5) PRACTICE INFRONT of a mirror

6) increase your vocabruary.........knowledge is power

7) smile yes smile when you speak

8) think before you speak......always have something clever to say

9) TWO EARS ONE MOUTH-listen twice as much as you speak, still waters run deep, less is more philosophy

10) laydown when talking on the phone......being in a relaxed mood = sexier tone
lol, i've recorded my voice before... i never realized how bad i sound!
 

jocca

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good stuff so far anyone else have any tips?
 

Flabbergasped?

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By the way, I think the word you're looking for is intonation, not tonality.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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True (admittedly I had to look it up) but hopefully the word tonality is better recieved on this site anyway.
 
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