"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Told my ex to move on. I keep looking at her insta story...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She didn’t cheat or anything like that. She’s very loyal. Doesn’t go out partying that much-every once in a while for a friend’s birthday. Got a long with my family. So no “STUFF”.
Yea, I admit I still care about her but that doesn’t mean I care about her in a romantic way.
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In what way do you still care about her, and why?
Would a "friend" agonize over what another "friend" thinks when they view their Instagram stories?
What. Are you transforming into the nonsexual Daddy mode now? Stop the stalking and go complete NC…
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How is that dad mode? You’ve never fallen out of love with a girl but still cared about her as a person?
Still think you're in denial because you're definitely still in love with her.
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Right, but it prolongs a mans emotional healing time. Borders on masochism to keep doing it to yourself.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hold up. Y’all think this behavior is normal (looking at her every post knowing she can see that you’ve looked) ? Especially coming from someone who told their ex to move on? Isn’t this beyond curiosity at this point?
Yep, like I said earlier it borders on masochism, but more probably it’s an obsession.
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And going out of their way to post on an internet forum asking for advice about it?
Yes, it's normal. Perfectly normal. Is it healthy? No. Is he in denial about his feelings for her? Probably. We've all been there. It's ok. No shame. The real question is: Do you listen to the advice you requested or do you keep asking for it while defending yourself repeatedly against the advice?
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In the end, she is going to MOVE ON.. and you are going to move on.. So why waste anymore time lingering over her posts, her pics, obsessing about her.
Yes it's a hard thing to do, especially when you have emotionally bonded with a person.
So why not just take on board the advice given, from people who have been in this exact situation and have managed to get over an ex, the quickest and easiest way possible.
If op applied full NC on all platforms, including social media, he could be over this chick in no time, and using his time better spent on things that really matter!
That's the thing though I have moved on. I'd rather be single than with someone who makes me have doubt.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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I have moved on from my ex too.. Do you know how many times I check her Insta or her social media? NEVER
Got better chit to do!
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She posts a few times a day. Almost every day. Music, her dog, etc. and I'll look at just about everyone.
That’s obsessive behavior in an attempt to keep your internal emotional connection with her.
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Not to say I disagree with you, but why not just speak up if that's the case?
No point in asking OP because he'll just deny everything...
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.