"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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To the dudes mack'n on dating sites, a mini-case study.

Johnnyventana

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My good friend since HS is trying out Match.com. Last night she and some dude emailed and he asked for her number.

This morning he sent her a, "hope you have a great day text." My friend really was happy about that, though wondered if it was too much, too soon. Yet, still, it made her morning. She was excited.

Then tonight, the dude texts her again asking, "how was your day?'

My friend immediately calls me all freaked out thinking he may be crazy! I explained that she should be careful, but that he may simply be AFC. And that him having 'no game' was actually good for her, anyways. ;)

It was very interesting in that a. Yesterday was their first ever email exchange. And b. He made her super excited this morning but ruined it completely by then texting again too soon tonight -- since they don't even know each other and thus however nice, he came off creepy.

Anyway, a cautionary tale for those on the dating site. Be cool.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Alex DeLarge

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J Roc said:
dating sites are lame
agreed. I work and go to school full time. I still have time to meet chicks in real life if I feel like it.
 

Johnnyventana

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Actually in her case, I am glad she is doing it. I have never done a dating site myself. I did think this was a good tale though for those who are a little too persistent and eager. And it is an interesting perspective from the chick side.
 

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What's interesting about the OP is not the online dating stuff but the fact that there's such a fine balance in seducing a chick. The whole "how was your day" thing is a little too much for someone you've never even met.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Johnnyventana

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Exactly Zarky. Less is more. Wow them in person. Save the over-doing-it texting for 15 year old girls.
 

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I dont think it was that creepy a little aggressive maybe. Shes reading in to it too much.
 
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