I was thinking that I want to further myself in being a challenge. I've been on a date 3 times with this girl and at the end of all 3 I've either kissed her or made out with her. So I was thinking that at the end of the next one, I'd lean in like I'm going to kiss her, smile, and then walk away. What do you think?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
To not kiss on the next date
- Thread starter bud_2005
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Why wait? Kiss her! Lik said it best - it could work, but it would more likely backfire. You have to take what you want. Who cares what she wants? You want some action, so take it! This 'going too fast' bullsh*t is for pvssies. She wants it too. Be a challenge in other ways.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Are you trying to be funny? "Being a challenge" means not being her little toy to control, not just plain being a prick. If my chick did that to me, I'd probably do the same thing back to her on the next TWO dates out of spite, if she even GOT two dates with me again.Originally posted by bud_2005
I was thinking that I want to further myself in being a challenge. I've been on a date 3 times with this girl and at the end of all 3 I've either kissed her or made out with her. So I was thinking that at the end of the next one, I'd lean in like I'm going to kiss her, smile, and then walk away. What do you think?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sexual_intellectual
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just get creative with your kissing! Keep things fresh, and mentally she'll challenge herself to keep you.