I was thinking that I want to further myself in being a challenge. I've been on a date 3 times with this girl and at the end of all 3 I've either kissed her or made out with her. So I was thinking that at the end of the next one, I'd lean in like I'm going to kiss her, smile, and then walk away. What do you think?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Why wait? Kiss her! Lik said it best - it could work, but it would more likely backfire. You have to take what you want. Who cares what she wants? You want some action, so take it! This 'going too fast' bullsh*t is for pvssies. She wants it too. Be a challenge in other ways.
MetalFortress
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Are you trying to be funny? "Being a challenge" means not being her little toy to control, not just plain being a prick. If my chick did that to me, I'd probably do the same thing back to her on the next TWO dates out of spite, if she even GOT two dates with me again.Originally posted by bud_2005
I was thinking that I want to further myself in being a challenge. I've been on a date 3 times with this girl and at the end of all 3 I've either kissed her or made out with her. So I was thinking that at the end of the next one, I'd lean in like I'm going to kiss her, smile, and then walk away. What do you think?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
sexual_intellectual
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just get creative with your kissing! Keep things fresh, and mentally she'll challenge herself to keep you.