Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
icatchiCatch said:If this steak is so good and you love it, why want something else?
Think : If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MacAvoy, I am your father. *draws light saber from pants to prove it*MacAvoy said:icatch
Do you honestly think you could eat Stake as your only meat for the rest of your life? The reason you don't is because you haven't been brainwashed to think that you have to be monogamous to one food like you have been with women.
You can keep your morals, personally I'm going to experience everything life has to offer.
I missed the joke, can you explain it?BeyondCharm said:MacAvoy, I am your father. *draws light saber from pants to prove it*
I agree 100%. But a fulfilling relationship and having the odd ONS is much more satisfying than just a fulfilling relationship. The problem is 99.9% of men don't have the skills to successfully pull off both. They are idiots & leave a trail & get caught which leads to the end of the relationship which obviously wasn't fulfilling for them.young_gun said:A fulfilling relationship is so much more satisfying than a one night stand.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Fair enough, if you find no trouble with your actions and perfer to cover it up, that's your way. No need to call anyone who want to not cheat and thinks it the correct act because you don't want her to do it even in secret and thus don't want to do it oneself as brainwashed and missing out.MacAvoy said:I agree 100%. But a fulfilling relationship and having the odd ONS is much more satisfying than just a fulfilling relationship. The problem is 99.9% of men don't have the skills to successfully pull off both. They are idiots & leave a trail & get caught which leads to the end of the relationship which obviously wasn't fulfilling for them.
If fulfilling relationships are all that, then why such a high failure rate? I cheated on my last oneitis dozens of times, she to this day still has no clue and it had zero negative impact on our relationship. However, I'm not your typical Joe Smoe, I'm good at what I do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I will be honest with you.SkillzthatKillz said:Alright, i need some quick advice. I have a great G/f i've been dating for 5 years. But along comes this hb10 that i know i can get. Should i go for it? You only live once. Or should i do the right thing? I know a few guys who cheat all the time on there girls (its funny cause its no big deal to them lol).
Anyways what do you guys think?
One small problem with that. Being faithful to ur girlfirend does not always mean she'll be faithful to u too.young_gun said:If you don't want your girl to cheat on you (if you've never had it happen you shouldn't even participate in this thread) then don't do it to her.
While you might be addressing to him, there's little clause against that anyone else who think like him is also "brainwashed" and while you didn't said direct anyone whose no is missing out, it does says that anyone who don't do it is not experiencing everything life have to offer.MacAvoy said:icatch
Do you honestly think you could eat Stake as your only meat for the rest of your life? The reason you don't is because you haven't been brainwashed to think that you have to be monogamous to one food like you have been with women.
You can keep your morals, personally I'm going to experience everything life has to offer.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.