You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
icatchiCatch said:If this steak is so good and you love it, why want something else?
Think : If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MacAvoy, I am your father. *draws light saber from pants to prove it*MacAvoy said:icatch
Do you honestly think you could eat Stake as your only meat for the rest of your life? The reason you don't is because you haven't been brainwashed to think that you have to be monogamous to one food like you have been with women.
You can keep your morals, personally I'm going to experience everything life has to offer.
I missed the joke, can you explain it?BeyondCharm said:MacAvoy, I am your father. *draws light saber from pants to prove it*
I agree 100%. But a fulfilling relationship and having the odd ONS is much more satisfying than just a fulfilling relationship. The problem is 99.9% of men don't have the skills to successfully pull off both. They are idiots & leave a trail & get caught which leads to the end of the relationship which obviously wasn't fulfilling for them.young_gun said:A fulfilling relationship is so much more satisfying than a one night stand.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fair enough, if you find no trouble with your actions and perfer to cover it up, that's your way. No need to call anyone who want to not cheat and thinks it the correct act because you don't want her to do it even in secret and thus don't want to do it oneself as brainwashed and missing out.MacAvoy said:I agree 100%. But a fulfilling relationship and having the odd ONS is much more satisfying than just a fulfilling relationship. The problem is 99.9% of men don't have the skills to successfully pull off both. They are idiots & leave a trail & get caught which leads to the end of the relationship which obviously wasn't fulfilling for them.
If fulfilling relationships are all that, then why such a high failure rate? I cheated on my last oneitis dozens of times, she to this day still has no clue and it had zero negative impact on our relationship. However, I'm not your typical Joe Smoe, I'm good at what I do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I will be honest with you.SkillzthatKillz said:Alright, i need some quick advice. I have a great G/f i've been dating for 5 years. But along comes this hb10 that i know i can get. Should i go for it? You only live once. Or should i do the right thing? I know a few guys who cheat all the time on there girls (its funny cause its no big deal to them lol).
Anyways what do you guys think?
One small problem with that. Being faithful to ur girlfirend does not always mean she'll be faithful to u too.young_gun said:If you don't want your girl to cheat on you (if you've never had it happen you shouldn't even participate in this thread) then don't do it to her.
While you might be addressing to him, there's little clause against that anyone else who think like him is also "brainwashed" and while you didn't said direct anyone whose no is missing out, it does says that anyone who don't do it is not experiencing everything life have to offer.MacAvoy said:icatch
Do you honestly think you could eat Stake as your only meat for the rest of your life? The reason you don't is because you haven't been brainwashed to think that you have to be monogamous to one food like you have been with women.
You can keep your morals, personally I'm going to experience everything life has to offer.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.