You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
There's always more to learn, it's called having a student mentality.I mean why are you still here?
Or to weed through troll posts like this that are starting to appear more than real postsThere's always more to learn, it's called having a student mentality.
Also some may want to stick around and give advice to others that need help.
So Suave is a safe space, coping mechanism for social outcasts that live cartoon character lives online in a desperate attempt to impress other social misfits.If you are so great at picking up women
What is keeping you from becoming rich and famous?
I mean why are you still here?
Shouldn't all aspect of your life have benefited from the fact
That all women wanted to be with you?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
As with anything in life...You're not the first person in the history of SS to ask this question in one form or another, and every time I see it, I see a person who doesn't get what success is when it comes to women.
People who ask this question almost always assume that this kind of success is when you rarely or never fail. So in their minds, a man who talks about his greatest conquests MUST either be, or is pretending to be, the George Clooney/Brad Pitt type who succeeds wildly and succeeds often.
But the truth is, any man who is truly successful with women is also going to be a man who deals with his fair share of failure and rejection too. The one member here who immediately comes to mind as a good example of this is @TheGambino . He wins big, loses big sometimes and isn't afraid to show it all. That's what success typically is. And that's why a lot of guys are "still here", even when they can land those big successes.
A man who asks this question typically doesn't get that. That is his weakness, not someone else's.
Now some guys aren't humble enough to admit this side of their game. Some just choose to focus on positives rather than negatives. But neither means these experiences aren't there.
And yeah, some guys here and there are faking it too, but who cares about them. They are only lying to themselves.