Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
There's always more to learn, it's called having a student mentality.I mean why are you still here?
Or to weed through troll posts like this that are starting to appear more than real postsThere's always more to learn, it's called having a student mentality.
Also some may want to stick around and give advice to others that need help.
So Suave is a safe space, coping mechanism for social outcasts that live cartoon character lives online in a desperate attempt to impress other social misfits.If you are so great at picking up women
What is keeping you from becoming rich and famous?
I mean why are you still here?
Shouldn't all aspect of your life have benefited from the fact
That all women wanted to be with you?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
As with anything in life...You're not the first person in the history of SS to ask this question in one form or another, and every time I see it, I see a person who doesn't get what success is when it comes to women.
People who ask this question almost always assume that this kind of success is when you rarely or never fail. So in their minds, a man who talks about his greatest conquests MUST either be, or is pretending to be, the George Clooney/Brad Pitt type who succeeds wildly and succeeds often.
But the truth is, any man who is truly successful with women is also going to be a man who deals with his fair share of failure and rejection too. The one member here who immediately comes to mind as a good example of this is @TheGambino . He wins big, loses big sometimes and isn't afraid to show it all. That's what success typically is. And that's why a lot of guys are "still here", even when they can land those big successes.
A man who asks this question typically doesn't get that. That is his weakness, not someone else's.
Now some guys aren't humble enough to admit this side of their game. Some just choose to focus on positives rather than negatives. But neither means these experiences aren't there.
And yeah, some guys here and there are faking it too, but who cares about them. They are only lying to themselves.