Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Answer 1: (If this is your first Christmas together) Same thing you got me last year.Dante420 said:Sh!t test: What you getting me for Christmas?
Answer 2: I'm getting you out of those clothes.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Answer 1: (If this is your first Christmas together) Same thing you got me last year.Dante420 said:Sh!t test: What you getting me for Christmas?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
reframe: wait a sec! i thought you were on the naughty list!Dante420 said:Sh!t test: What you getting me for Christmas?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
A white Christmas ......and a towel.Sh!t test: What you getting me for Christmas?
sorry... i guess what i meant was... "TIRED OF GETTING OWNED BY SH!T TESTS?!"Jitterbug said:Why would you be tired of sh!t tests?
Sh!t testing is a woman's way of (mentally) checking a guy out to see if he's the real deal, the equivalent of you checking out her cleavage or legs.
Get the attitude towards a woman's sh!t tests right, and you'll be able to handle them all with ease, instead of memorizing lines.
You should be worried when the woman you're pursuing or in a relationship with is not sh!t testing you at all. That usually means she's lost interest.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
"Then get me in a nicer mood."Energy25 said:I'm interested in this one because a girl once said it to me when I suggested we hang out.
Sh!t test: "You're always so mean to me."
"Ya me to, we should arrange a play date for them"I'm in the Mood said:"Then get me in a nicer mood."
This shyt test can be ignored though, you could have said "Yep, so when are you available? I can do Friday night, Saturday night or Sunday afternoon..."
Shyt tests can be ignored, like so and you dissolve her resistance this way.
Anyone have one for: "Sorry, I have a boyfriend."
No? Come on now.