"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tips on quitting smoking.

Gamisch

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Anybody managed to quit smoking nicotine? Used to be a heavy drinker and pot smoker. Managed to stop that sh1t but cigarettes seems kinda hard.

Anybody some advice on how to manage it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BillyPilgrim

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Take a break from women to limit potential aggravation. Lol.
 

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I quit cold turkey about 2.5 years ago. Cigarettes started to become so expensive, that it was nearly a defacto wealthy mans habit. I haven't had a cigarette since, and I was smoking probably 2 packs of 25 every 3 days. I still smoke Weed occasionally, and I want to stop drinking as well. I had my last drink on my now departed Father's birthday, on the 9th June. Going to see how long I can keep that going, to help both financially, and with health.

Everyone is different, I guess it was will power for me. It wasn't my strongest vice, alcohol is. I could handle with ease, people smoking around me at the Pub, but unsure how I could handle going to Pubs sober, and not drinking. I've done it before, ie: Dry July, Ocsober (I never lasted the whole month though), hopefully I can again.

So, summing up, for cigarettes, it was willpower.
 

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The book "The Only Way to Stop Smoking Permanently" by Allen Carr worked for all my friends many years ago.
 

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I quit cold turkey 10 years ago and then started running 5K’s. I stopped running and started smoking again.
A few years ago I switched to vaping. Started at medium nic level and over time reduced it to zero. Now occasionally I still get the urge to put it in my mouth again. Sometimes I do, but it’s still set at zero nicotine.…

The urge will probably be with us forever, but we Can totally eliminate nicotine dependence …
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Volunteer at a hospital and see how COPD patients were almost all smokers. Take a look online at pictures of cancerous lungs, if that doesn’t do it I don’t know what will.

that said I understand I’m an ex-smoker and have a cigarette socially now and then..
 

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Anybody managed to quit smoking nicotine? Used to be a heavy drinker and pot smoker. Managed to stop that sh1t but cigarettes seems kinda hard.

Anybody some advice on how to manage it?
I never smoked. 1st self help book i read was Anthony Robbins. He had stuff on nlp and others. Essentially, to pattern interrupted smoking, you need to associate enough brain with smoking to break the habit.

Funny story. I took a puff as a teen. 8 wanted food. Friend bought my food but dared me to inhale 1x. I coughed my ass off and puked my guts out. Full on green face. Projectile vomiting. Absolutely rubbish.

I cannot fathom it. Would rate a 10 far lower if she smokes. I find it repulsive.
 

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Tobacco increases your T Levels naturally. That’s why all your badass heroes from the past have a cigarette dangling out of their mouth.

And by the way dude. Stop trying to live forever. If you enjoy smoking then do it I say. It triggers woke people too “heeeeey you’re gona get caaaaancer” lol. Shrug like a badboy and blow a smoke ring
Haha you always have a unexpected POV on subjects.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I smoked for something like 15 years and quit cold turkey when I realized I could smoke a pack a day. I always knew I would have to quit at some point, and it seemed the best time to do it. I've tried smoking since the smell of even an unsmoked cigarette makes me want to puke. I will still smoke a cigar every now and then though.

You can try a guided trip with shrooms. I think the success rate after one session is 86%.
 
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It's easy. Just suddenly stop buying cigarette packs. I don't believe in the "taking it step by step" way. If you do a relapse, ok smoke one or two cigarettes then take the rest of the pack, put water inside it from the loo, tear down the cigarettes and put them in the bin. That way you won't be tempted again.

Not sure why Beta males have issues with quitting cigarettes.
 

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Hello, it's more of psychological factor, it's a decision to be made suddenly you have to be determined for it.
 

Gamisch

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It's easy. Just suddenly stop buying cigarette packs. I don't believe in the "taking it step by step" way. If you do a relapse, ok smoke one or two cigarettes then take the rest of the pack, put water inside it from the loo, tear down the cigarettes and put them in the bin. That way you won't be tempted again.

Not sure why Beta males have issues with quitting cigarettes.
I like your advice ,but that last sentence is a unnecessary kick .

You are a self proclaimed alpha man yet you go to Asia on a s3x vacation and have this weird fascination with height. Real alphas don't need to go on s3x vacations imo, they get it everywhere they go.

I still think you are here to troll, haven't figured it out yet. Be humble and stick to the topic bro.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Find some Dutch masters menthol mini cigars and smoke all you want, I dare you. Limit yourself to them and you will have to quit, because they are that disgusting.
 
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I like your advice ,but that last sentence is a unnecessary kick .

You are a self proclaimed alpha man yet you go to Asia on a s3x vacation and have this weird fascination with height. Real alphas don't need to go on s3x vacations imo, they get it everywhere they go.

I still think you are here to troll, haven't figured it out yet. Be humble and stick to the topic bro.
I'm posting really good advice about dating apps. All the infos are in my threads. As for height, someone needed to create a proper datasheet since many people seem clueless that it's an important factor. Hell, a forum member created a thread about dating only low value women. I made him admit that they were all short.
 

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Hey man. I smoked for about 2 years, 10 cigarettes a day or so. I quit, haven't smoked for about 12 years. Had a cigarette in my mouth with a girl some months ago, didn't inhale.

What was significant for me I think was a journal. I wrote the date, and then "Didn't smoke." It became a competition for me, to be able to write that line every evening before sleep. After a while it got boring, it was pointless, I got it.

I think it can be good to look at the psychology with smoking, and for oneself. For those addicted, it likely can be a defence mechanism. In your case, against what? Why did you smoke? What/when caused you to smoke? For me it was probably some kind of nervousness.

Also, feeling good because of smoking is a bit meh. It's like paying for sex or cheating on an exam or so. Not a win. Or feeling good because of being drunk. Well, I do drink (though these days I don't feel like feeling).

Regarding @Pan87's comment: A smoke once in a while is not that bad in my opinion. It's just typically darn hard to keep it at that level -- the next day you wake up with that pack of smoke in the pocket and on it goes. I just have a zero-policy because it's easy and requires the least energy -- at the cost of, indeed, looking cool with that smoke or whatever. I agree it's a bit cringe to be some conformist, health freak moma-boy, but being some worn-out "rocker" is also. I was a young lost boy at a tango place in a city once, and one of the seniors grabbed a smoke with me. He used to smoke, got anxiety from it nowadays. But did it in order to bond with this lad, I think. Now that's a good reason to grab a smoke.

Maybe his method can be discussed.

I used to run to/workout when I quit, mostly do strength these days. Guess all distractions and replacements are good in principle.
 
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I smoked for years since 17. In 2013 I switched to vaping. I started off at 12mg, then cut it down to 9mg and eventually down to 0mg. At that point it was more of a mental habit and quit (though I was on 0mg for a year)

And if you vape, please use unflavored juice
 

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I've smoked for 18 years, not heavy, 2-3 handmade roll-ups a day, probably equal to 1-2 cigarettes per day, I enjoy it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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