"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tips for when you start feeling "needy"

tryst type

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Like title says, been starting to feel fed up and a bit of neediness is making itself into how I interact with girls.

Part of me is just plain exhausted with all dating and the crap that comes along with it.

Last time this happened I wanted to just STOP everything that involved girls and concentrate on other things but then my sexual urges kick in and I find my will caving and I get back on the pursuit to only again now be at that same point.

Any tips to help overcome this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Night-hawk

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Teach yourself to laugh at how unfunny it is to be needy to girls that aren't amusing you enough.
 

glass half full

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come to this site and read up. think of what you've been through with twits. have a beer, and go to bed. When you wake up, you'll be glad you did.
 

SecondHalf

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Your subject and message content read a little different.

If you meant, that when you start dating a woman, you get a little needy, possessive ..., that one is easily solvable ... spin more plates. The problem with that is that it can eat up some significant time.

If you meant, needy as sexually needy ... only one solution ... kind of a paradox :)

Perhaps you could elaborate a bit more.

SH
 

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SecondHalf said:
Your subject and message content read a little different.

If you meant, that when you start dating a woman, you get a little needy, possessive ..., that one is easily solvable ... spin more plates. The problem with that is that it can eat up some significant time.

If you meant, needy as sexually needy ... only one solution ... kind of a paradox :)

Perhaps you could elaborate a bit more.

SH
A little of both but definitely more sexually needy I guess. Especially when girls are tantalizing which it seems they like to do towards me to get more than just a sexual experience.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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