Metro3pilot said:
went to a carnival with a girl I work with, I paid for the first rides, then when we went back to get more tickets she offered to pay and when I said that's all right I will get it, she said " you don't have to pay for everything this is not a date " DOH ! ! ! !
guess I was mistaken because I thought it was
A couple of things:
To go from friend/coworker to sex partner is very doable. To go from girlfriend, door mat, chump to sex partner is extremely difficult.
I don't label spending time with a women as a date - it raises expectations unnecessarily.
When you rearrange the way you approach your interaction with women you can let her pay without comment and if she seemed to expect you to pay you say to
her "it's not like this is a date". (then she can keep wondering to herself "doesn't he want me?"
Good job not overreacting. If anything like this happens I just laugh and keep her wondering what I am thinking. If she pressed me I would say something like "I thought it was two people having a fun time together"
; "I'm not sure I like you that much yet"; "I hadn't thought about it, but I don't close myself off to enjoying another person or to experiencing intimacy for superficial reasons, until I feel I know them on a much deeper level, do you?"