Chimera
Don Juan
Get better looking. 
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Through experience, I've learned the secret to all DJism
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No but it helps an awful lot as a confidence booster because if you're well built and sexy, the women will give you a chance. Even if you fail the first 20 or so times when women show interest in you first you get the confidence boost of knowing that the women are interested, and the confidence boost will only swerve into other areas as well. Where if you aren't at your maximum best good looking, you have to make up for it by having even better game and a lot of times you are forced to open chicks first rather than them opening you.
ya the girl opening you is the only advantage. But if you don't have game they will eventually lose interest and leave. Trust me, being good looking won't get you laid alone. That's all I'm saying. Though in my case I'm not used to being good looking (wasn't that good looking in high school, I was just average) so I sometimes misinterpret a girl opening me thinking that she wants something else.Waking Up said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MyBloodyValentine
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the ultimate secret is to be funny, and fun. if you can make a girl laugh and at the same time be very social and be the life of the party you can have any girl you want. at least this has been my experience. if you aarent the best looking tool in the shed just dress nice, exercise, and work on improving other areas. you cant change your genes but you can become more funny and sociable!
Right my point was. If you're good looking, and you get opened a lot, like a staircase effect or a ripple tide your game will get better too because you'll feel wanted, resulting in more confidence. But the responses in this topic have been all correct so far.
Chimera
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It's funny how the general consensus in this forum has gone from "Looks don't matter" to "Looks matter, but only somewhat" to "**** it. Looks matter a lot."
chinwaggler
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Looks matter but they don't stop you.
looks only matter more than anything else if you make them... sure, you should try to look the best you can so you make a good impression before you even speak to the girl, but after that first impression it's your attitude, confidence and words that keep attraction going. looks take the backseat.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.