Chimera
Don Juan
Get better looking. 
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Through experience, I've learned the secret to all DJism
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
No but it helps an awful lot as a confidence booster because if you're well built and sexy, the women will give you a chance. Even if you fail the first 20 or so times when women show interest in you first you get the confidence boost of knowing that the women are interested, and the confidence boost will only swerve into other areas as well. Where if you aren't at your maximum best good looking, you have to make up for it by having even better game and a lot of times you are forced to open chicks first rather than them opening you.
ya the girl opening you is the only advantage. But if you don't have game they will eventually lose interest and leave. Trust me, being good looking won't get you laid alone. That's all I'm saying. Though in my case I'm not used to being good looking (wasn't that good looking in high school, I was just average) so I sometimes misinterpret a girl opening me thinking that she wants something else.Waking Up said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MyBloodyValentine
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the ultimate secret is to be funny, and fun. if you can make a girl laugh and at the same time be very social and be the life of the party you can have any girl you want. at least this has been my experience. if you aarent the best looking tool in the shed just dress nice, exercise, and work on improving other areas. you cant change your genes but you can become more funny and sociable!
Right my point was. If you're good looking, and you get opened a lot, like a staircase effect or a ripple tide your game will get better too because you'll feel wanted, resulting in more confidence. But the responses in this topic have been all correct so far.
Chimera
Don Juan
It's funny how the general consensus in this forum has gone from "Looks don't matter" to "Looks matter, but only somewhat" to "**** it. Looks matter a lot."
chinwaggler
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Looks matter but they don't stop you.
looks only matter more than anything else if you make them... sure, you should try to look the best you can so you make a good impression before you even speak to the girl, but after that first impression it's your attitude, confidence and words that keep attraction going. looks take the backseat.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.