Chimera
Don Juan
Get better looking. 
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Through experience, I've learned the secret to all DJism
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No but it helps an awful lot as a confidence booster because if you're well built and sexy, the women will give you a chance. Even if you fail the first 20 or so times when women show interest in you first you get the confidence boost of knowing that the women are interested, and the confidence boost will only swerve into other areas as well. Where if you aren't at your maximum best good looking, you have to make up for it by having even better game and a lot of times you are forced to open chicks first rather than them opening you.
ya the girl opening you is the only advantage. But if you don't have game they will eventually lose interest and leave. Trust me, being good looking won't get you laid alone. That's all I'm saying. Though in my case I'm not used to being good looking (wasn't that good looking in high school, I was just average) so I sometimes misinterpret a girl opening me thinking that she wants something else.Waking Up said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MyBloodyValentine
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the ultimate secret is to be funny, and fun. if you can make a girl laugh and at the same time be very social and be the life of the party you can have any girl you want. at least this has been my experience. if you aarent the best looking tool in the shed just dress nice, exercise, and work on improving other areas. you cant change your genes but you can become more funny and sociable!
Right my point was. If you're good looking, and you get opened a lot, like a staircase effect or a ripple tide your game will get better too because you'll feel wanted, resulting in more confidence. But the responses in this topic have been all correct so far.
Chimera
Don Juan
It's funny how the general consensus in this forum has gone from "Looks don't matter" to "Looks matter, but only somewhat" to "**** it. Looks matter a lot."
chinwaggler
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Looks matter but they don't stop you.
looks only matter more than anything else if you make them... sure, you should try to look the best you can so you make a good impression before you even speak to the girl, but after that first impression it's your attitude, confidence and words that keep attraction going. looks take the backseat.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.