Chimera
Don Juan
Get better looking. 
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Through experience, I've learned the secret to all DJism
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No but it helps an awful lot as a confidence booster because if you're well built and sexy, the women will give you a chance. Even if you fail the first 20 or so times when women show interest in you first you get the confidence boost of knowing that the women are interested, and the confidence boost will only swerve into other areas as well. Where if you aren't at your maximum best good looking, you have to make up for it by having even better game and a lot of times you are forced to open chicks first rather than them opening you.
ya the girl opening you is the only advantage. But if you don't have game they will eventually lose interest and leave. Trust me, being good looking won't get you laid alone. That's all I'm saying. Though in my case I'm not used to being good looking (wasn't that good looking in high school, I was just average) so I sometimes misinterpret a girl opening me thinking that she wants something else.Waking Up said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MyBloodyValentine
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the ultimate secret is to be funny, and fun. if you can make a girl laugh and at the same time be very social and be the life of the party you can have any girl you want. at least this has been my experience. if you aarent the best looking tool in the shed just dress nice, exercise, and work on improving other areas. you cant change your genes but you can become more funny and sociable!
Right my point was. If you're good looking, and you get opened a lot, like a staircase effect or a ripple tide your game will get better too because you'll feel wanted, resulting in more confidence. But the responses in this topic have been all correct so far.
Chimera
Don Juan
It's funny how the general consensus in this forum has gone from "Looks don't matter" to "Looks matter, but only somewhat" to "**** it. Looks matter a lot."
chinwaggler
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Looks matter but they don't stop you.
looks only matter more than anything else if you make them... sure, you should try to look the best you can so you make a good impression before you even speak to the girl, but after that first impression it's your attitude, confidence and words that keep attraction going. looks take the backseat.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.