"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thoughts on Complimenting

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What are your opinions on complimenting. How often should I do it? I heard that it shows desperation or something like that so I don't do it too often to "remain a mystery." If it wasn't for that I would be complimenting girls every day
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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El Payaso

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I've personally never complimented any girl I'm dating in the early phase but that's just me.
 

Rainman4707

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When dating a woman, compliment her once in a while. Sincere compliments are better because she knows you mean it.

My GF has been saying she has a fat ass & that she is fat recently so when she says these things I have been telling her how much she turns me on, that she has a booty & I love fu*king her.
Am I overdoing it? I just want her to know that I like her body.
 

RangerMIke

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Rainman4707 said:
When dating a woman, compliment her once in a while. Sincere compliments are better because she knows you mean it.

My GF has been saying she has a fat ass & that she is fat recently so when she says these things I have been telling her how much she turns me on, that she has a booty & I love fu*king her.
Am I overdoing it? I just want her to know that I like her body.
This is the best way to deal with "Do I look fat? Questions. Just get sexual with her... works every time.

On compliments. .. Always be sincere. Compliment her ONLY if you really mean it. Women always know when you lay it on thick.

One compliment per date is about as much as you want to do. Otherwise you run the risk of coming off sounding like a phoney.
 

WanderingMan

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Compliment (reward) her for positive things.

Don't compliment for negative things.

Think of it as training a puppy...:eek:

If she started working out that week, and she's lost a few pounds, then compliment her some way on she's looking good: "those jeans look really good on you". Don't bring up the fact that she's been working out - let her connect the dots - that way she'll decide on her own that she wants to go to the gym more. If she cooks a good meal - give her a compliment. If she buys you something - give her a compliment. If she nags you for no apparent reason - withdraw attention and any sort of compliments or rewarding behavior.

Disclaimer: There are beta ways to compliment and alpha ways to compliment. A simple "you look really good today babe" or "that was a great meal" can be all you need sometimes. Give her a little appreciation and recognition for her good behavior (but don't over do it) , and she will do more of it - and aim to please you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SeymourCake

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Compliment on her behavior. That's all.
 
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