"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thoughts on Complimenting

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What are your opinions on complimenting. How often should I do it? I heard that it shows desperation or something like that so I don't do it too often to "remain a mystery." If it wasn't for that I would be complimenting girls every day
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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El Payaso

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I've personally never complimented any girl I'm dating in the early phase but that's just me.
 

Rainman4707

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When dating a woman, compliment her once in a while. Sincere compliments are better because she knows you mean it.

My GF has been saying she has a fat ass & that she is fat recently so when she says these things I have been telling her how much she turns me on, that she has a booty & I love fu*king her.
Am I overdoing it? I just want her to know that I like her body.
 

RangerMIke

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Rainman4707 said:
When dating a woman, compliment her once in a while. Sincere compliments are better because she knows you mean it.

My GF has been saying she has a fat ass & that she is fat recently so when she says these things I have been telling her how much she turns me on, that she has a booty & I love fu*king her.
Am I overdoing it? I just want her to know that I like her body.
This is the best way to deal with "Do I look fat? Questions. Just get sexual with her... works every time.

On compliments. .. Always be sincere. Compliment her ONLY if you really mean it. Women always know when you lay it on thick.

One compliment per date is about as much as you want to do. Otherwise you run the risk of coming off sounding like a phoney.
 

WanderingMan

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Compliment (reward) her for positive things.

Don't compliment for negative things.

Think of it as training a puppy...:eek:

If she started working out that week, and she's lost a few pounds, then compliment her some way on she's looking good: "those jeans look really good on you". Don't bring up the fact that she's been working out - let her connect the dots - that way she'll decide on her own that she wants to go to the gym more. If she cooks a good meal - give her a compliment. If she buys you something - give her a compliment. If she nags you for no apparent reason - withdraw attention and any sort of compliments or rewarding behavior.

Disclaimer: There are beta ways to compliment and alpha ways to compliment. A simple "you look really good today babe" or "that was a great meal" can be all you need sometimes. Give her a little appreciation and recognition for her good behavior (but don't over do it) , and she will do more of it - and aim to please you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SeymourCake

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Compliment on her behavior. That's all.
 
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