"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thoughts on Co-Workers

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Big picture, no rush.

Self-control. Let the other guys jump all over her. HB9 does not equal "special". You're surrounded by HB9s (go with me here). You enjoy a hot chick as much as the next guy but you're past the point of it having any major effect on you, either way. If you see her, that's cool, if not, that's cool too. Hell, for you to really get worked up, she'd have to do a lot of qualifying herself to you. She'd really have to show you that she's worth something, and she'd have to take a personal interest in you. She done that yet?

That is not the mindset of 99% of the guys in your office.

yeah.. well I had a perfect opening to go after work girl. Because I actually worked with her years ago at another company when she was married. Then, when I saw her again at the current workplace, I went up and started talking about how we used to work together and she remembered me.

One of the first things she told me is "she just got divorced". LOL, after that, it was pretty much me saying "what are you doing Friday?"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If your looking for something long term or a girlfriend and you don't care about your job go for it. If your looking to just get some ass and/or you care about your career, leave it alone. That is where you make your money, its not a game.
 

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It's never a good idea. Weigh the pros and cons.
Pro: An Hb bedwarmer
Cons: Bad work environment after break up, you getting fired
 

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You know, this site has really opened my eyes to how different dating is in the US, than other countries.

For instance, in a lot of european countries dating someone you work with isn't such a big deal, and some asian countries it's actually encouraged.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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