"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thoughts on Co-Workers

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Big picture, no rush.

Self-control. Let the other guys jump all over her. HB9 does not equal "special". You're surrounded by HB9s (go with me here). You enjoy a hot chick as much as the next guy but you're past the point of it having any major effect on you, either way. If you see her, that's cool, if not, that's cool too. Hell, for you to really get worked up, she'd have to do a lot of qualifying herself to you. She'd really have to show you that she's worth something, and she'd have to take a personal interest in you. She done that yet?

That is not the mindset of 99% of the guys in your office.

yeah.. well I had a perfect opening to go after work girl. Because I actually worked with her years ago at another company when she was married. Then, when I saw her again at the current workplace, I went up and started talking about how we used to work together and she remembered me.

One of the first things she told me is "she just got divorced". LOL, after that, it was pretty much me saying "what are you doing Friday?"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Warrior74

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If your looking for something long term or a girlfriend and you don't care about your job go for it. If your looking to just get some ass and/or you care about your career, leave it alone. That is where you make your money, its not a game.
 

3countriesPlan

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It's never a good idea. Weigh the pros and cons.
Pro: An Hb bedwarmer
Cons: Bad work environment after break up, you getting fired
 

martinM.

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You know, this site has really opened my eyes to how different dating is in the US, than other countries.

For instance, in a lot of european countries dating someone you work with isn't such a big deal, and some asian countries it's actually encouraged.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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