So things were going very well the night before last with this girl at my dorm. I decided to wait until the next night (last night) to make a bigger move. I guess this was a mistake. I am pretty sure she hooked up with another guy in the dorm last night. Also, she is friendly in person every time I talk to her and hasn't been a b1tch in anyway yet. Should I still go for her or not?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thought things were going well one night but she goes for another guy the next night
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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In all fairness its probably one of the following scenerios:
1) Wanted to get some attention but had fallen for the other guy (a true interest)
2) You may have done something irregular or odd which pushed her away
3) May have come off as inexperienced
I'm not implying that you're 1,2,3, in my experience it usually was these 3. Don't sweat it, everyone ****s up and it only makes you better and more aware of your actions and the actions of others. Learn from them and don't blow them off.
I remember when I was really young I dated these hot chick for about 2 weeks. She was really into me, and she brought me to a golf park and made out heavily for 20min, then the evening was called. The next day she called and said I dont think were meant for each other, etc... Turns out I was a really lousy kisser. So I said **** me, I'm going to get this **** down. I popped out tons of books, read through tons of forums and tips, and began practicing with my new gf. Sure enough, it paided off.
But I won't lie, being told that rips you apart.
1) Wanted to get some attention but had fallen for the other guy (a true interest)
2) You may have done something irregular or odd which pushed her away
3) May have come off as inexperienced
I'm not implying that you're 1,2,3, in my experience it usually was these 3. Don't sweat it, everyone ****s up and it only makes you better and more aware of your actions and the actions of others. Learn from them and don't blow them off.
I remember when I was really young I dated these hot chick for about 2 weeks. She was really into me, and she brought me to a golf park and made out heavily for 20min, then the evening was called. The next day she called and said I dont think were meant for each other, etc... Turns out I was a really lousy kisser. So I said **** me, I'm going to get this **** down. I popped out tons of books, read through tons of forums and tips, and began practicing with my new gf. Sure enough, it paided off.
But I won't lie, being told that rips you apart.You guys were just dating and did not have an exclusive label. She has absolutely no commitment to you. Do not blame her. You should also be dating at least 2 other girls as well.Demystify said:
If you guys have a good time together, just forget you saw her with another guy and stop thinking about what they COULD have done because that will mess you up. Do not give up. You are on this board to learn, and I can tell you that most guys DO NOT know what to do with a girl.
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Demystify said:
That is a typical womans life... they have many options so you have a limited amount of time to get in and get what you want cause most times there are men in line in front and behind you waiting to get to the PU$$Y...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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LOL... WAIT YOUR TURN OR TRY TO STEAL ANOTHER GUYS TURN... it does not matter either way you need to be spinning other plates as they say.Demystify said: