"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this sound like a booty call to you?

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i met this chick last saturday at a resturant. She worked there, and i started some convo with her at the counter, and told her i would be back before i left. So i told my buddy that i was going to get her number after we ate and he informed me that her boyfriend was at the table next to us. Im like wtf? this dude is a chump. :eek: So sure enough, we ate slow and the dudes left (4 of them total), and she gave one dude a kiss before they went out the door. I walked up to her about a minute later and said "was that your bore friend?" she said "yeah", i said, "well thats sad, because i was coming up here to get your number, but you can give it to me anyway". She said "ok cool, we can hang out sometime", and she punched it into my phone. so i called her the next day and tried to set up a time we could meet. She told me that her boyfriend was out of convenience. They live together, but she has her own room and own space. So im like whatever, cause i dont really care. Dude has nothing on me. haha.
So im at the gym a bit ago, and i get out and have a voicemail from her, inviting me over tonight to play video games, because her boyfriend is at work. Interesting. Her phone is messed up (she actually called me from her boyfriends phone the other day, and was all talking covertly to me on the phone and shlt, it was hilarious), so she told me the address and just said to come over after 8. so i called her back at work and told her that i was busy until 9:30-10, but after that i could. She said "ok just come over whenever".

Does that sound like a booty call to you guys? :yes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it certainly does :) get in there you lucky bastard!
 

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Am I going to be the first one to ask what would happen if her boyfriend finds an new number that was called from his phone?
 

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Id say "hey whats up man? Yeah this is Amy's cousin, James. Nice to meet you. Yeah she called me the other day because her phone was messed up. Alright, talk to you later" :rockon:
 

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jamescr73 said:
i met this chick last saturday at a resturant. She worked there, and i started some convo with her at the counter, and told her i would be back before i left. So i told my buddy that i was going to get her number after we ate and he informed me that her boyfriend was at the table next to us. Im like wtf? this dude is a chump. :eek: So sure enough, we ate slow and the dudes left (4 of them total), and she gave one dude a kiss before they went out the door. I walked up to her about a minute later and said "was that your bore friend?" she said "yeah", i said, "well thats sad, because i was coming up here to get your number, but you can give it to me anyway". She said "ok cool, we can hang out sometime", and she punched it into my phone. so i called her the next day and tried to set up a time we could meet. She told me that her boyfriend was out of convenience. They live together, but she has her own room and own space. So im like whatever, cause i dont really care. Dude has nothing on me. haha.
So im at the gym a bit ago, and i get out and have a voicemail from her, inviting me over tonight to play video games, because her boyfriend is at work. Interesting. Her phone is messed up (she actually called me from her boyfriends phone the other day, and was all talking covertly to me on the phone and shlt, it was hilarious), so she told me the address and just said to come over after 8. so i called her back at work and told her that i was busy until 9:30-10, but after that i could. She said "ok just come over whenever".

Does that sound like a booty call to you guys? :yes:
Jesus... it doesn't get any bootier than that. Nice $&#($&# job, bud!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sounds like a booty call to me. I personally wouldn't want to get involved with her since she lives with her b/f. Go for it if you want to tho. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
 

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i wouldnt want my girl to cheat on me, but then again, shes not my girl :crackup:
 

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You do what you wanna do, but just remember dude...what goes around, comes around.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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^^^I'm kind of in the same situation, except mine is married..lol.
 

jamescr73

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ValleyDJing said:
You do what you wanna do, but just remember dude...what goes around, comes around.
yeah, actually in my case everything is opposite. It already came around, so now its time for me to go around. God id like to take a video and send it to my ex. hahahahaa.
 

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I was in a similar situation a year ago and I fell in love with the trashy b***h and it ended very badly.
THat is the danger you face.
Remember this -" If they will do it with you, they will do it TO you."
 

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jamescr73 said:
Id say "hey whats up man? Yeah this is Amy's cousin, James. Nice to meet you. Yeah she called me the other day because her phone was messed up. Alright, talk to you later" :rockon:
You had better let this chick know that you're going to say that if he calls because you know who he'll call as soon as he gets off the phone with you.
 

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i wouldnt go over there, what if he comes home early... he might kill you and her... some guys are nuts... i wouldnt do that, just tell him to leave (i know guys act like guys, when i was cheated on i never blamed him... and then i found out she said she didnt have a BF... long story). but seriously man, you might be ****ing the **** out of here and bam door opens, your naked getting your head smashed in.

think about it... if your goingto do it invite her over to your place.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Livinlifehard said:
i wouldnt go over there, what if he comes home early... he might kill you and her... some guys are nuts... i wouldnt do that, just tell him to leave (i know guys act like guys, when i was cheated on i never blamed him... and then i found out she said she didnt have a BF... long story). but seriously man, you might be ****ing the **** out of here and bam door opens, your naked getting your head smashed in.

think about it... if your goingto do it invite her over to your place.

I was talking about karma but that too! haha! "Your naked and getting your head smashed in" :crackup: :crackup:
 

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So im over there hanging out, and were seriously playing games and dude shows up. He didnt do anything. Not a fu*king thing. She grabbed a backpack full of beer, and we went to my house. Then the fun began. :D
God i love my life.
 

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yeah i guess its fairly open. The dude came in, she introduced me to him, i shook his hand and said whats up, and we were out the door within 1 minute. Then today she tells me that he said i seemed pretty cool. Nice.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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