"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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this sound like a booty call to you?

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i met this chick last saturday at a resturant. She worked there, and i started some convo with her at the counter, and told her i would be back before i left. So i told my buddy that i was going to get her number after we ate and he informed me that her boyfriend was at the table next to us. Im like wtf? this dude is a chump. :eek: So sure enough, we ate slow and the dudes left (4 of them total), and she gave one dude a kiss before they went out the door. I walked up to her about a minute later and said "was that your bore friend?" she said "yeah", i said, "well thats sad, because i was coming up here to get your number, but you can give it to me anyway". She said "ok cool, we can hang out sometime", and she punched it into my phone. so i called her the next day and tried to set up a time we could meet. She told me that her boyfriend was out of convenience. They live together, but she has her own room and own space. So im like whatever, cause i dont really care. Dude has nothing on me. haha.
So im at the gym a bit ago, and i get out and have a voicemail from her, inviting me over tonight to play video games, because her boyfriend is at work. Interesting. Her phone is messed up (she actually called me from her boyfriends phone the other day, and was all talking covertly to me on the phone and shlt, it was hilarious), so she told me the address and just said to come over after 8. so i called her back at work and told her that i was busy until 9:30-10, but after that i could. She said "ok just come over whenever".

Does that sound like a booty call to you guys? :yes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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it certainly does :) get in there you lucky bastard!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Am I going to be the first one to ask what would happen if her boyfriend finds an new number that was called from his phone?
 

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Id say "hey whats up man? Yeah this is Amy's cousin, James. Nice to meet you. Yeah she called me the other day because her phone was messed up. Alright, talk to you later" :rockon:
 

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jamescr73 said:
i met this chick last saturday at a resturant. She worked there, and i started some convo with her at the counter, and told her i would be back before i left. So i told my buddy that i was going to get her number after we ate and he informed me that her boyfriend was at the table next to us. Im like wtf? this dude is a chump. :eek: So sure enough, we ate slow and the dudes left (4 of them total), and she gave one dude a kiss before they went out the door. I walked up to her about a minute later and said "was that your bore friend?" she said "yeah", i said, "well thats sad, because i was coming up here to get your number, but you can give it to me anyway". She said "ok cool, we can hang out sometime", and she punched it into my phone. so i called her the next day and tried to set up a time we could meet. She told me that her boyfriend was out of convenience. They live together, but she has her own room and own space. So im like whatever, cause i dont really care. Dude has nothing on me. haha.
So im at the gym a bit ago, and i get out and have a voicemail from her, inviting me over tonight to play video games, because her boyfriend is at work. Interesting. Her phone is messed up (she actually called me from her boyfriends phone the other day, and was all talking covertly to me on the phone and shlt, it was hilarious), so she told me the address and just said to come over after 8. so i called her back at work and told her that i was busy until 9:30-10, but after that i could. She said "ok just come over whenever".

Does that sound like a booty call to you guys? :yes:
Jesus... it doesn't get any bootier than that. Nice $&#($&# job, bud!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sounds like a booty call to me. I personally wouldn't want to get involved with her since she lives with her b/f. Go for it if you want to tho. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
 

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i wouldnt want my girl to cheat on me, but then again, shes not my girl :crackup:
 

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You do what you wanna do, but just remember dude...what goes around, comes around.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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^^^I'm kind of in the same situation, except mine is married..lol.
 

jamescr73

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ValleyDJing said:
You do what you wanna do, but just remember dude...what goes around, comes around.
yeah, actually in my case everything is opposite. It already came around, so now its time for me to go around. God id like to take a video and send it to my ex. hahahahaa.
 

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I was in a similar situation a year ago and I fell in love with the trashy b***h and it ended very badly.
THat is the danger you face.
Remember this -" If they will do it with you, they will do it TO you."
 

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jamescr73 said:
Id say "hey whats up man? Yeah this is Amy's cousin, James. Nice to meet you. Yeah she called me the other day because her phone was messed up. Alright, talk to you later" :rockon:
You had better let this chick know that you're going to say that if he calls because you know who he'll call as soon as he gets off the phone with you.
 

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i wouldnt go over there, what if he comes home early... he might kill you and her... some guys are nuts... i wouldnt do that, just tell him to leave (i know guys act like guys, when i was cheated on i never blamed him... and then i found out she said she didnt have a BF... long story). but seriously man, you might be ****ing the **** out of here and bam door opens, your naked getting your head smashed in.

think about it... if your goingto do it invite her over to your place.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Livinlifehard said:
i wouldnt go over there, what if he comes home early... he might kill you and her... some guys are nuts... i wouldnt do that, just tell him to leave (i know guys act like guys, when i was cheated on i never blamed him... and then i found out she said she didnt have a BF... long story). but seriously man, you might be ****ing the **** out of here and bam door opens, your naked getting your head smashed in.

think about it... if your goingto do it invite her over to your place.

I was talking about karma but that too! haha! "Your naked and getting your head smashed in" :crackup: :crackup:
 

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So im over there hanging out, and were seriously playing games and dude shows up. He didnt do anything. Not a fu*king thing. She grabbed a backpack full of beer, and we went to my house. Then the fun began. :D
God i love my life.
 

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yeah i guess its fairly open. The dude came in, she introduced me to him, i shook his hand and said whats up, and we were out the door within 1 minute. Then today she tells me that he said i seemed pretty cool. Nice.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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