"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This seems to work for me.

Canadian Catnip

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Over the last 2 years or so I have been reading tons of stuff on attraction, dating, body language, alpha male etc.

After reading a lot of this stuff and trying a lot of different things out I think I have hit upon something that works for me. I have gleaned this technique from a few different places and I wanted to see if some of the other PUA's on this forum could verify that this works for them as well.

First off this is not new information but after trying a lot of different things I found this one works really well for me. And it's.... Acting indifferent. It's really amazing how well it works. I almost go to the extreme of totally ignoring women. Somehow it pushes a button in them to really want to get to know you.

I can remember countless incidents over the last year, and in hindsight it's how I usually ended up with a girlfriend, of just ignoring women and they come on to me. Can anyone attest to this as well? I think I'm just understanding how it works but I don't have the entire picture just yet.

These things have been said before but they work so well.

If you see a women you like don't talk to her, talk to her friends.

Angle your body away from her when you talk to her, almost ninety degrees away, as if you are about to turn and leave.

When you enter a room, never scan it, walk in and pretend you are totally disinterested in anyone there. Apparently a beta male is always scanning the room trying to figure out his social position, whereas an alpha male knows he is the top dog. Women will unconsciously notice something different about you, they will see you as different in a good way.

These things and others have really helped. I put them all under the category of being disinterested. Can someone comment or add to this thread.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Forms

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Indifference can work, but you have to know what you're doing. This is one of those things can that be pretty confusing to a beginner. Think more of a push pull thing than a complete ignoring approach. If you meet a girl you like and you're COMPLETELY indifferent she has no idea and won't put much thought into you.

It works best if you meet her, show some interest, then back off.

Overall it works.
 

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Canadian Catnip said:
When you enter a room, never scan it, walk in and pretend you are totally disinterested in anyone there. Apparently a beta male is always scanning the room trying to figure out his social position, whereas an alpha male knows he is the top dog. Women will unconsciously notice something different about you, they will see you as different in a good way.
This is actually VERY good advice. In fact I'll start using this next time I'm at a bar as I do have a tendency to walk in and look around a lot.
 
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