THIAGO BRAZIL
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As you FEEL you shall BE.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
THIS REALLY WORKS
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
This reminds me of Radiohead's song: "Fitter, Happier."
Levity aside, it looks like it's worth a go. But I'll skip the light jazz. And I really don't know any *positive* thing that would give *90 minutes* a day for this -- at least not for a while. A shorter tape for a longer time, perhaps?
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Levity aside, it looks like it's worth a go. But I'll skip the light jazz. And I really don't know any *positive* thing that would give *90 minutes* a day for this -- at least not for a while. A shorter tape for a longer time, perhaps?
[This message has been edited by Bonhomme (edited 08-22-2002).]
the_gunslinger
Don Juan
any chance of someone making a downloadable WAV or MP3 file for us who dont have such a thing as a recordable Tape player
I think the idea is that it is your voice that is giving yourself positive affirmations. Having someone else's voice saying all that stuff will make it sound like it's directed towards someone else.
Just record it on a mike through your pc if you don't have a tape player.
Any suggestions for background music mp3s or sounds that work well (someone mentioned the sound of waves is good). How about dune-prophecy theme (brian ego)?
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dead_romeo
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For the people requesting cool backgrounds/sound effects check the link up top in my previous post, this program has some nice backgrounds and can dump the output to a .wav file on your HD that you can later convert to mp3 and burn it on a CD if you want.
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"Conclusions arrived at through reasoning have very little or no influence in altering the course of our lives. Hence, the countless examples of people who have the clearest convictions and yet act diametrically against them time and time again; and have as the only explanation for their behavior the idea that to err is human." Carlos Castaneda - The Fire From Within
"It is the responsibility of the strong to help the weak become strong" - Harlan Ellison
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"Conclusions arrived at through reasoning have very little or no influence in altering the course of our lives. Hence, the countless examples of people who have the clearest convictions and yet act diametrically against them time and time again; and have as the only explanation for their behavior the idea that to err is human." Carlos Castaneda - The Fire From Within
"It is the responsibility of the strong to help the weak become strong" - Harlan Ellison
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
HavierLopez
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for you guys with the motorola v60, and whatever other cell that might have it, they have a built in voice recorder. Just use that to record, and a pair of headphones to listen, and you can listen anywhere. Just a thought
Shadow Dancer
Senior Don Juan
Affirmations by theirself do NOT work. It's just a bunch of babble and a waste of your time. You can't just repeat a line and think that you're life will manifest itself in that way. Life doesn't work like that.
For affirmations to work, you have to BELIEVE them. You have to FEEL them. If you say, "I am the biggest pimp there is." but don't actually, TRULY believe it, it don't mean shiet. You've got to actually feel it it. You've got to actually BELIEVE it. It's got to be to the point where it's not even a question. It's just who you are.
Also, note that you will get very limited results if you project into the future. You need to live in the present. Example: If you say, "I will make a million dollars within five years" you ain't gonna get jack. Now if you say, "I AM a millionaire. I'm making money with every second that passes." and you actually feel, believe it and continue in this way...well then my friends, it WILL come true. Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world. To change anything external you must come to understand and change the internal. Once you do, your "outside" will manifest to align with who you are on the inside.
Word.
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I danced till midnight when the sky turned black,
It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
But I am the dance and I still go on.
For affirmations to work, you have to BELIEVE them. You have to FEEL them. If you say, "I am the biggest pimp there is." but don't actually, TRULY believe it, it don't mean shiet. You've got to actually feel it it. You've got to actually BELIEVE it. It's got to be to the point where it's not even a question. It's just who you are.
Also, note that you will get very limited results if you project into the future. You need to live in the present. Example: If you say, "I will make a million dollars within five years" you ain't gonna get jack. Now if you say, "I AM a millionaire. I'm making money with every second that passes." and you actually feel, believe it and continue in this way...well then my friends, it WILL come true. Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world. To change anything external you must come to understand and change the internal. Once you do, your "outside" will manifest to align with who you are on the inside.
Word.
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I danced till midnight when the sky turned black,
It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
But I am the dance and I still go on.
Lost
Master Don Juan
i was jus wonderin if i try to do it a diff way.. like if i record it with a mic onto the computer and change it to mp3 form and burn it onto a cd. and that means it might not be 90 minutes, and i also probly wouldnt be able to play a jazz cd unless i get an extra cd player and find some jazz music... will that make a difference.. i mean will it still work mentally for me(like change my personality and mind and whatnot..) with those complications?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is extremely important and I agree 100%. In order for affirmations to work they must be backed by emotion. Otherwise, after a while, your brain will just tune it out. If you attach emotion to the statements your brain will be 1000x's more likely to remember, and act, on them.
The best way to do this is the way that De La Soul does... in front of the mirror. And don't just say them; feel them and believe them.
aznbreakerjrey
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, I just started this stuff yesterday, saying this stuff w/ conviction and true belief ... and I already feel myself feeling better about life and myself. Good stuff
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lost
Master Don Juan
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If you want to be more confident you don't need an affirmation just act as if you already are.
If you want to be a millionaire just act as if you already are one and by your actions you will receive what is your due.
Affirmations do work. But the easier way is to trick yourself into believing that you already are what you want to become.
Just pretend and guess what you will automatically become.
This is from the famous psycologist William James it's called the "Act as if" principle. Why wait for the affirmations to work when you can automatically act as if you are happy, sexy, good looking, rich, charismatic etcc....
Try it!
If you want to be a millionaire just act as if you already are one and by your actions you will receive what is your due.
Affirmations do work. But the easier way is to trick yourself into believing that you already are what you want to become.
Just pretend and guess what you will automatically become.
This is from the famous psycologist William James it's called the "Act as if" principle. Why wait for the affirmations to work when you can automatically act as if you are happy, sexy, good looking, rich, charismatic etcc....
Try it!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.