THIAGO BRAZIL
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As you FEEL you shall BE.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
THIS REALLY WORKS
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
This reminds me of Radiohead's song: "Fitter, Happier."
Levity aside, it looks like it's worth a go. But I'll skip the light jazz. And I really don't know any *positive* thing that would give *90 minutes* a day for this -- at least not for a while. A shorter tape for a longer time, perhaps?
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Levity aside, it looks like it's worth a go. But I'll skip the light jazz. And I really don't know any *positive* thing that would give *90 minutes* a day for this -- at least not for a while. A shorter tape for a longer time, perhaps?
[This message has been edited by Bonhomme (edited 08-22-2002).]
the_gunslinger
Don Juan
any chance of someone making a downloadable WAV or MP3 file for us who dont have such a thing as a recordable Tape player
I think the idea is that it is your voice that is giving yourself positive affirmations. Having someone else's voice saying all that stuff will make it sound like it's directed towards someone else.
Just record it on a mike through your pc if you don't have a tape player.
Any suggestions for background music mp3s or sounds that work well (someone mentioned the sound of waves is good). How about dune-prophecy theme (brian ego)?
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dead_romeo
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For the people requesting cool backgrounds/sound effects check the link up top in my previous post, this program has some nice backgrounds and can dump the output to a .wav file on your HD that you can later convert to mp3 and burn it on a CD if you want.
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"Conclusions arrived at through reasoning have very little or no influence in altering the course of our lives. Hence, the countless examples of people who have the clearest convictions and yet act diametrically against them time and time again; and have as the only explanation for their behavior the idea that to err is human." Carlos Castaneda - The Fire From Within
"It is the responsibility of the strong to help the weak become strong" - Harlan Ellison
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"Conclusions arrived at through reasoning have very little or no influence in altering the course of our lives. Hence, the countless examples of people who have the clearest convictions and yet act diametrically against them time and time again; and have as the only explanation for their behavior the idea that to err is human." Carlos Castaneda - The Fire From Within
"It is the responsibility of the strong to help the weak become strong" - Harlan Ellison
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
HavierLopez
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for you guys with the motorola v60, and whatever other cell that might have it, they have a built in voice recorder. Just use that to record, and a pair of headphones to listen, and you can listen anywhere. Just a thought
Shadow Dancer
Senior Don Juan
Affirmations by theirself do NOT work. It's just a bunch of babble and a waste of your time. You can't just repeat a line and think that you're life will manifest itself in that way. Life doesn't work like that.
For affirmations to work, you have to BELIEVE them. You have to FEEL them. If you say, "I am the biggest pimp there is." but don't actually, TRULY believe it, it don't mean shiet. You've got to actually feel it it. You've got to actually BELIEVE it. It's got to be to the point where it's not even a question. It's just who you are.
Also, note that you will get very limited results if you project into the future. You need to live in the present. Example: If you say, "I will make a million dollars within five years" you ain't gonna get jack. Now if you say, "I AM a millionaire. I'm making money with every second that passes." and you actually feel, believe it and continue in this way...well then my friends, it WILL come true. Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world. To change anything external you must come to understand and change the internal. Once you do, your "outside" will manifest to align with who you are on the inside.
Word.
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I danced till midnight when the sky turned black,
It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
But I am the dance and I still go on.
For affirmations to work, you have to BELIEVE them. You have to FEEL them. If you say, "I am the biggest pimp there is." but don't actually, TRULY believe it, it don't mean shiet. You've got to actually feel it it. You've got to actually BELIEVE it. It's got to be to the point where it's not even a question. It's just who you are.
Also, note that you will get very limited results if you project into the future. You need to live in the present. Example: If you say, "I will make a million dollars within five years" you ain't gonna get jack. Now if you say, "I AM a millionaire. I'm making money with every second that passes." and you actually feel, believe it and continue in this way...well then my friends, it WILL come true. Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world. To change anything external you must come to understand and change the internal. Once you do, your "outside" will manifest to align with who you are on the inside.
Word.
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I danced till midnight when the sky turned black,
It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
But I am the dance and I still go on.
Lost
Master Don Juan
i was jus wonderin if i try to do it a diff way.. like if i record it with a mic onto the computer and change it to mp3 form and burn it onto a cd. and that means it might not be 90 minutes, and i also probly wouldnt be able to play a jazz cd unless i get an extra cd player and find some jazz music... will that make a difference.. i mean will it still work mentally for me(like change my personality and mind and whatnot..) with those complications?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is extremely important and I agree 100%. In order for affirmations to work they must be backed by emotion. Otherwise, after a while, your brain will just tune it out. If you attach emotion to the statements your brain will be 1000x's more likely to remember, and act, on them.
The best way to do this is the way that De La Soul does... in front of the mirror. And don't just say them; feel them and believe them.
aznbreakerjrey
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, I just started this stuff yesterday, saying this stuff w/ conviction and true belief ... and I already feel myself feeling better about life and myself. Good stuff
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Lost
Master Don Juan
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If you want to be more confident you don't need an affirmation just act as if you already are.
If you want to be a millionaire just act as if you already are one and by your actions you will receive what is your due.
Affirmations do work. But the easier way is to trick yourself into believing that you already are what you want to become.
Just pretend and guess what you will automatically become.
This is from the famous psycologist William James it's called the "Act as if" principle. Why wait for the affirmations to work when you can automatically act as if you are happy, sexy, good looking, rich, charismatic etcc....
Try it!
If you want to be a millionaire just act as if you already are one and by your actions you will receive what is your due.
Affirmations do work. But the easier way is to trick yourself into believing that you already are what you want to become.
Just pretend and guess what you will automatically become.
This is from the famous psycologist William James it's called the "Act as if" principle. Why wait for the affirmations to work when you can automatically act as if you are happy, sexy, good looking, rich, charismatic etcc....
Try it!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.