This make sense?

[Giantsfan88]

I agreed to a date for her to confirm. I think that makes me look weak and feminine in itself( even though she said she'd do that the last date). When she sorta flaked the day of, I responded "Didn't think you were coming. Already made plans." I think it made me look unworthy and like I get dumped on a lot and it lowered her respect of me and took away my dignity. I should have assumed we were on and never agreed to confirm. It made me look weak and submissive to her to do that too. Who agrees?

 

[sylvester the cat]

Agreed.

 

[mrpickles666]

Agreed.

This is Giantsfan88. Please tell me why

 

[mrpickles666]

Can someone please explain what Sylvester the cat means? Did I really look like that much of a weak b1tch? Explain why exactly.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Your being a weak azz beta b1tch right now

 

[mrpickles666]

Your being a weak azz beta b1tch right now

Because I already made myself look like I was unworthy of her by telling her I didn't think she was coming and already made plans. It's fvcking with my head. How do I deal with it? She doesn't know what I'm saying right now but I already made myself look like a phaggot a$$ "I'll wait for your confirmation" b1tch and I can't digest that. SHE WILL NEVER RESPECT ME AGAIN. My dignity is gone...

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

You don't need explanation, you've worked it out for yourself. But to clarify:

1) Regardless of what she thinks, YOU assumed she wouldn't turn up. This is a terrible mind set to be in and I suggest you work on our confidence before trying to approach women.

2) No, you do not 'wait' for confirmation. You TELL her when to meet you and if she refuses then you wait for a counter offer. If none arrives, you move the f*ck on. LEAST of all, you DO NOT EVER tell her that you are waiting around for her like your life is so sad that you have nothing better to do than be her faithful lap servant, even if that is very much the case. Pretend you have a life if you have to.

3) "Didn't think you were coming." Final nail in the coffin. Like you've been waiting around for nothing else except this pedestalised life-changing moment. I'd let this one go. To be honest, SHE dodged a bullet with this one.

4) I'm tempted to call troll on this one.

 

[hera]

You don't need explanation, you've worked it out for yourself. But to clarify:

1) Regardless of what she thinks, YOU assumed she wouldn't turn up. This is a terrible mind set to be in and I suggest you work on our confidence before trying to approach women.

2) No, you do not 'wait' for confirmation. You TELL her when to meet you and if she refuses then you wait for a counter offer. If none arrives, you move the f*ck on. LEAST of all, you DO NOT EVER tell her that you are waiting around for her like your life is so sad that you have nothing better to do than be her faithful lap servant, even if that is very much the case. Pretend you have a life if you have to.

3) "Didn't think you were coming." Final nail in the coffin. Like you've been waiting around for nothing else except this pedestalised life-changing moment. I'd let this one go. To be honest, SHE dodged a bullet with this one.

4) I'm tempted to call troll on this one.

Bingo. Agreed.

 

[mrpickles666]

You don't need explanation, you've worked it out for yourself. But to clarify:

1) Regardless of what she thinks, YOU assumed she wouldn't turn up. This is a terrible mind set to be in and I suggest you work on our confidence before trying to approach women.

2) No, you do not 'wait' for confirmation. You TELL her when to meet you and if she refuses then you wait for a counter offer. If none arrives, you move the f*ck on. LEAST of all, you DO NOT EVER tell her that you are waiting around for her like your life is so sad that you have nothing better to do than be her faithful lap servant, even if that is very much the case. Pretend you have a life if you have to.

3) "Didn't think you were coming." Final nail in the coffin. Like you've been waiting around for nothing else except this pedestalised life-changing moment. I'd let this one go. To be honest, SHE dodged a bullet with this one.

4) I'm tempted to call troll on this one.

So I looked like I had no confidence and she could never like me again? IT'S REALLY THAT BAD? I LOOKED LIKE I HAD NO CONFIDENCE?!?!?!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

A confident man does not assume that a woman won't turn up.

You put far to much emphasis on one meeting with one woman.

You communicated both of these things to the woman in question.

It doesn't mean she'll never like you again, but it does mean that for the moment she is wondering what is wrong with you for being so desperate.... she's wondering if she is going to be stuck with a guy who seemingly has no life without her.

 

[mrpickles666]

A confident man does not assume that a woman won't turn up.

You put far to much emphasis on one meeting with one woman.

You communicated both of these things to the woman in question.

It doesn't mean she'll never like you again, but it does mean that for the moment she is wondering what is wrong with you for being so desperate.... she's wondering if she is going to be stuck with a guy who seemingly has no life without her.

I agree with your two points but it would be nice if she's not consciously thinking of those two points. I've shown a lot of confidence in the majority of our interactions