"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agreed to a date for her to confirm. I think that makes me look weak and feminine in itself( even though she said she'd do that the last date). When she sorta flaked the day of, I responded "Didn't think you were coming. Already made plans." I think it made me look unworthy and like I get dumped on a lot and it lowered her respect of me and took away my dignity. I should have assumed we were on and never agreed to confirm. It made me look weak and submissive to her to do that too. Who agrees?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can someone please explain what Sylvester the cat means? Did I really look like that much of a weak b1tch? Explain why exactly.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MillionBillionaire said:
Your being a weak azz beta b1tch right now
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Because I already made myself look like I was unworthy of her by telling her I didn't think she was coming and already made plans. It's fvcking with my head. How do I deal with it? She doesn't know what I'm saying right now but I already made myself look like a phaggot a$$ "I'll wait for your confirmation" b1tch and I can't digest that. SHE WILL NEVER RESPECT ME AGAIN. My dignity is gone...
 
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You don't need explanation, you've worked it out for yourself. But to clarify:

1) Regardless of what she thinks, YOU assumed she wouldn't turn up. This is a terrible mind set to be in and I suggest you work on our confidence before trying to approach women.

2) No, you do not 'wait' for confirmation. You TELL her when to meet you and if she refuses then you wait for a counter offer. If none arrives, you move the f*ck on. LEAST of all, you DO NOT EVER tell her that you are waiting around for her like your life is so sad that you have nothing better to do than be her faithful lap servant, even if that is very much the case. Pretend you have a life if you have to.

3) "Didn't think you were coming." Final nail in the coffin. Like you've been waiting around for nothing else except this pedestalised life-changing moment. I'd let this one go. To be honest, SHE dodged a bullet with this one.

4) I'm tempted to call troll on this one.
 
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TheMonkeyKing said:
You don't need explanation, you've worked it out for yourself. But to clarify:

1) Regardless of what she thinks, YOU assumed she wouldn't turn up. This is a terrible mind set to be in and I suggest you work on our confidence before trying to approach women.

2) No, you do not 'wait' for confirmation. You TELL her when to meet you and if she refuses then you wait for a counter offer. If none arrives, you move the f*ck on. LEAST of all, you DO NOT EVER tell her that you are waiting around for her like your life is so sad that you have nothing better to do than be her faithful lap servant, even if that is very much the case. Pretend you have a life if you have to.

3) "Didn't think you were coming." Final nail in the coffin. Like you've been waiting around for nothing else except this pedestalised life-changing moment. I'd let this one go. To be honest, SHE dodged a bullet with this one.

4) I'm tempted to call troll on this one.
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Bingo. Agreed.
 
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TheMonkeyKing said:
You don't need explanation, you've worked it out for yourself. But to clarify:

1) Regardless of what she thinks, YOU assumed she wouldn't turn up. This is a terrible mind set to be in and I suggest you work on our confidence before trying to approach women.

2) No, you do not 'wait' for confirmation. You TELL her when to meet you and if she refuses then you wait for a counter offer. If none arrives, you move the f*ck on. LEAST of all, you DO NOT EVER tell her that you are waiting around for her like your life is so sad that you have nothing better to do than be her faithful lap servant, even if that is very much the case. Pretend you have a life if you have to.

3) "Didn't think you were coming." Final nail in the coffin. Like you've been waiting around for nothing else except this pedestalised life-changing moment. I'd let this one go. To be honest, SHE dodged a bullet with this one.

4) I'm tempted to call troll on this one.
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So I looked like I had no confidence and she could never like me again? IT'S REALLY THAT BAD? I LOOKED LIKE I HAD NO CONFIDENCE?!?!?!
 
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A confident man does not assume that a woman won't turn up.

You put far to much emphasis on one meeting with one woman.

You communicated both of these things to the woman in question.

It doesn't mean she'll never like you again, but it does mean that for the moment she is wondering what is wrong with you for being so desperate.... she's wondering if she is going to be stuck with a guy who seemingly has no life without her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheMonkeyKing said:
A confident man does not assume that a woman won't turn up.

You put far to much emphasis on one meeting with one woman.

You communicated both of these things to the woman in question.

It doesn't mean she'll never like you again, but it does mean that for the moment she is wondering what is wrong with you for being so desperate.... she's wondering if she is going to be stuck with a guy who seemingly has no life without her.
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I agree with your two points but it would be nice if she's not consciously thinking of those two points. I've shown a lot of confidence in the majority of our interactions
 
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