I get my ass so far, and my head ruins it. If I like a girl and she likes me and we both know it, this is where my head goes insane. I get oneitis in a heartbeat. All my confidence is drained, I can't eat, I feel horrible, I plan out everything i'm gonna say to this girl, and I can't control any of this. I know that its all wrong, I know shes on the pedastool, you don't need to tell me that. I can't live this way forever. This is a horrible reality and I need to stop this, I can't eat for god sakes. Thanks.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This Is Why I'll Never Get An Attractive Girl
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I know exactly what ya mean.
It's because you never really had an attractive girl before. She starts to like you and you go sh!t this will be my first time with a hot girl and obsess about that fact. You explain it as getting oneitis for the girl.
Just remember that fact, you've probally fooled around with less attractive girls before, just think her as that.. don't worry if you fvck up.
It's because you never really had an attractive girl before. She starts to like you and you go sh!t this will be my first time with a hot girl and obsess about that fact. You explain it as getting oneitis for the girl.
Just remember that fact, you've probally fooled around with less attractive girls before, just think her as that.. don't worry if you fvck up.
yep, and both of them admitted to me that they cried over me. They weren't butt ass ugly but I never thought of them as hot or like a gf type id brag about. Thanks guys that was what i needed.Bvbidd said:
I was gonna meet up with her for a few minutes today and i flaked it because 1. i was sorta nervous and 2. i wanted to see if she lost intrest. Hahah, she texted me right after saying she didn't see me so I guess i'm still in the game. she texts me a lot i'm gonna take that as a positive.
If you want to NOT be a huge pansy about this anymore, go buy Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo. It WILL de-wussify you. I GUARANTEE that. Then you will look back and laugh at your old self when you couldn't even eat before, now you WILL be eating 
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.