This is what makes me feel incredibly hopeless in dating

[lamath]

He just said he hasn't had sex in 3 years

It can be hard for some men.
He just need to.socialise more and stop finding excuses.

Nothing wrong with Dave except his mindset.

He should go by the saying Always assume interest.

 

[RickTheToad]

You need to stop masturbation. Your self depreciating is annoying and ungenuine.

Ironically, it's Hollywood who destroyed the family dynamic and men being men. Now, if that's not the kettle calling the pot black..

 

[mrgoodstuff]

@bigdave17. Go for a walk in the park. Walk up to a lady you find that meets your requirements and chat. Or, go get some new clothes where attractive ladies shop. Ask them for their opinion and then ask if they'd like to get a drink with you. Of course, you will return the clothes later.

You need to stop focusing on it and let things happen. Stop harping on it and also lowering your expectations. The later is what's holding you back the most. You are your worst enemy.

Fvck his requirements. He is not at the position to have those standareds. He needs to FVCK.

 

[RickTheToad]

Fvck his requirements. He is not at the position to have those standareds. He needs to FVCK.

The issue is he wants a lady who looks like a goddess and refuses to settle for anything less. It's like me wanting to become governor of Connecticut, but I do not want to run for office. I just want the Connecticut General Assembly to grant me the office of Governor. Not going to happen. He also lives in the suburbs and doesn't want to go to the city (I empathize). So, when you add both together that would equate to a sexless life. He doesn't realize when he hooks up with 5 - 7's other ladies will notice and he'd slowly move up the levels. However, I will caution, even I had an 8 and 9 and trust when I say, it's really not worth it. Then again, you have 5's who think they are 10's, so who knows anymore.

He needs to work on his self confidence. It's as simple as that. He refuses to do so and posts here instead.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The issue is he wants a lady who looks like a goddess and refuses to settle for anything less. He also lives in the suburbs and doesn't want to go to the city (I empathize). So, when you add both together that would equate to a sexless life. He doesn't realize when he hooks up with 5 - 7's other ladies will notice and he'd slowly move up the levels. However, I will caution, even I had an 8 and 9 and trust when I say, it's really not worth it. Then again, you have 5's who think they are 10's, so who knows anymore.

He needs to work on his self confidence. It's as simple as that. He refuses to do so and posts here instead.

There is no work to do but shut his mouth stop complaining and start fvcking his way forward.

 

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Every time I see a Dave thread I think, Humpty dumpty sat on a wall...

 

[RickTheToad]

There is no work to do but shut his mouth stop complaining and start fvcking his way forward.

Easier said than done. All we can do is try and encourage him to do so, not judge or berate him.

 

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Easier said than done. All we can do is try and encourage him to do so, not judge or berate him.

Rick...Don't make me pull up quotes of you judging and berating people. Knock it off

 

[RickTheToad]

Rick...Don't make me pull up quotes of you judging and berating people. Knock it off

I don't believe I have. I make as many mistakes if not more than others. People come her for advice, as do I. I always try to give objective advice as best as possible. It may be harsh or direct, but it's not to attack a person.

 

[bigdave17]

Holy sh1t.

maybe 2 years

but I've never had sex with anybody who was dating material - it's all been single moms, women over 30, chubby girls, etc... I did sleep with a pretty good looking 25 year old with no kids with a hot body but she was a smoker and trashy.

the reason I haven't had sex with anybody since then is I've told myself no more engaging with any nonsense that isn't dating material

 

[bigdave17]

The issue is he wants a lady who looks like a goddess and refuses to settle for anything less. It's like me wanting to become governor of Connecticut, but I do not want to run for office. I just want the Connecticut General Assembly to grant me the office of Governor. Not going to happen. He also lives in the suburbs and doesn't want to go to the city (I empathize). So, when you add both together that would equate to a sexless life. He doesn't realize when he hooks up with 5 - 7's other ladies will notice and he'd slowly move up the levels. However, I will caution, even I had an 8 and 9 and trust when I say, it's really not worth it. Then again, you have 5's who think they are 10's, so who knows anymore.

He needs to work on his self confidence. It's as simple as that. He refuses to do so and posts here instead.

why do people here keep talking about this nonsense of me wanting a 10?

I've POSTED PICS of the women I went after on dating sites and Guru rated them as 4s, 5s and 6s. Guru rated me a 7.5/10

I'm literally interested in women less attractive than myself who make a fraction of my income. I'm barely even picky on the face, I just want a decent sorta cute face with a hot body.

 

[RickTheToad]

maybe 2 years

but I've never had sex with anybody who was dating material - it's all been single moms, women over 30, chubby girls, etc... I did sleep with a pretty good looking 25 year old with no kids with a hot body but she was a smoker and trashy.

the reason I haven't had sex with anybody since then is I've told myself no more engaging with any nonsense that isn't dating material

Bingo and there's your issue. You are putting too much pressure on you and indirectly any lady you chat with. As @Glassguy says, take it as it comes and do not have pressure for anything. Just enjoy the moment. Enjoy the experience.

 

[RickTheToad]

why do people here keep talking about this nonsense of me wanting a 10?

I've POSTED PICS of the women I went after on dating sites and Guru rated them as 4s, 5s and 6s. Guru rated me a 7.5/10

I'm literally interested in women less attractive than myself who make a fraction of my income. I'm barely even picky on the face, I just want a decent sorta cute face with a hot body.

IIRC, you posted pics multiple times of ladies you'd like to have as your partner. They were' 4 - 6's. They were some very attractive latin or Armenian ladies. Some instagram model too.

 

[lamath]

why do people here keep talking about this nonsense of me wanting a 10?

I've POSTED PICS of the women I went after on dating sites and Guru rated them as 4s, 5s and 6s. Guru rated me a 7.5/10

I'm literally interested in women less attractive than myself who make a fraction of my income. I'm barely even picky on the face, I just want a decent sorta cute face with a hot body.

Smv for.men is not just look and $

 

[bigdave17]

why do people here keep talking about this nonsense of me wanting a 10?

I've POSTED PICS of the women I went after on dating sites and Guru rated them as 4s, 5s and 6s. Guru rated me a 7.5/10

I'm literally interested in women less attractive than myself who make a fraction of my income. I'm barely even picky on the face, I just want a decent sorta cute face with a hot body.

I just wanted to elaborate on this


this is the real issue with the dating world nowadays. Women are graded on such a massively curved scale - a decent looking woman with a nice body, who makes 50K a year with a decent job, has no kids, somewhat intelligent, somewhat classy, etc... is treated as absolute gold even though she's just barely above average to where I've never even slept with somebody like that in 15 years of wanting one. Me - a 7/10 making 200K a year with no kids, works out 6 days a week, very intelligent, etc.... struggles massively to get a date. Men have to do 10 times more work for 1/10 the same result

 

[bigdave17]

IIRC, you posted pics multiple times of ladies you'd like to have as your partner. They were' 4 - 6's. They were some very attractive latin or Armenian ladies. Some instagram model too.

that's what I would love to get with


in real world, I would settle for much much less. In reality, I'm barely even picky on the face - I just want a decent face (no ugly chicks with terrible skin). I am pretty picky on the body - I want a girl who works out and has a decent ass and decent waist with at least B cup tits but I'm in great shape myself. Basically figure that I'm cool with a 6 face with a 7 body. I'm a 7.5 face with a 7 or 8 body

 

[RickTheToad]

that's what I would love to get with


in real world, I would settle for much much less. In reality, I'm barely even picky on the face - I just want a decent face (no ugly chicks with terrible skin). I am pretty picky on the body - I want a girl who works out and has a decent ass and decent waist with at least B cup tits but I'm in great shape myself. Basically figure that I'm cool with a 6 face with a 7 body. I'm a 7.5 face with a 7 or 8 body

I will ask you again, what do you have to offer a lady aside from $$$? Ladies, in general, make their own money, so this is really not as important initially. As you enter into an LTR or hell forbid, marriage, then it becomes more of an issue.

Ladies, for the most part, can sense despiration on a man. @AJ84, @BeExcellent, @sazc can prob. give more info on this. However, I wouldn't be surprised if you give off this aura on you; and you prob. don't even realize it. I encourage you to take baby steps with the ladies you are even mildly attracted to and work up from there. No one said you had to fvck or even kiss them. Just to get more experience and over time it will get easier for you to achieve what you want in terms of a lady; generally speaking. If you are heart set on ladies who look like or are Karen Vi, Bebe Rexha, or Arianna Grande; we'll that may be a tough mountain to climb. Who knows, it may be possible if you get yourself 100 and on point in everything.

 

[ChillDude6767]

@bigdave17. Go for a walk in the park. Walk up to a lady you find that meets your requirements and chat.

Only weirdos do that sh1t.

 

[RickTheToad]

Only weirdos do that sh1t.

Different strokes for different folks dude.

 

[corrector]

a decent looking woman with a nice body, who makes 50K a year with a decent job, has no kids, somewhat intelligent, somewhat classy, etc... is treated as absolute gold even though she's just barely above average to where I've never even slept with somebody like that in 15 years of wanting one.

So you've been an incel for 15 years then. That would be 2004. Yeah, 15 years passes by really fast.

The last time I met a college aged girl that had no kids, was a virgin herself, no baggage was back in 2007. I think she was the first girl I french kissed with ever. Well, I guess I'm 3 years ahead of you then in terms of meeting that type of women. I also met her online.