You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yes, I have too even here in SoCal, land of the "beautiful" people. Lol
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
^Jack Nicholson clip "Because you're beautiful." LOL
Yoga and pilates are common exercises for women. Do you ever see men at your yoga and pilates classes who are there to do approaches? Dating coach Blaine Anderson has been known to send male clients to pilates to pick up women.
It's a good idea for women to do weight training. Lift progressively heavier as well. Too many women are concerned about getting too bulky. That's not going to happen for most women.
Southern California has been very image oriented over time. It's become a less desirable place to live for many reasons.
She looks good for her age.
I agree! It's one thing I really dislike about it and try to avoid people who embody that attitude and lifestyle.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
