Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yes, I have too even here in SoCal, land of the "beautiful" people. Lol
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
^Jack Nicholson clip "Because you're beautiful." LOL
Yoga and pilates are common exercises for women. Do you ever see men at your yoga and pilates classes who are there to do approaches? Dating coach Blaine Anderson has been known to send male clients to pilates to pick up women.
It's a good idea for women to do weight training. Lift progressively heavier as well. Too many women are concerned about getting too bulky. That's not going to happen for most women.
Southern California has been very image oriented over time. It's become a less desirable place to live for many reasons.
She looks good for her age.
I agree! It's one thing I really dislike about it and try to avoid people who embody that attitude and lifestyle.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
