"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is becoming a problem...a big problem

vlf445

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In the past 5 months I've finally managed to attract some girls n get them in bed. But every time I go to put on the condom, I cant stay hard...It immediately kills the mood with the girl, n leaves her a little more than unhappy. When I finally got with another girl it happened again, and then with the next girl...Im only 19 years old, so I feel like this should definately not be happening. Its killing my confidence...please offer any advice you have.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't worry about it so much man, it happened to me the first couple of times too. It is normal to be nervous, the problem is you are thinking about being hard instead of thinking about how naked the girl is you are about to bone. If I can make a recommendation, try to find a girl who is a little experienced and knows how to keep her man turned on (ie. give you head until right before you put the condom on) or find someone you can hook up with on multiple occasions so you get used to it. Practice is definitely the number 1 way to get over it.
 

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It's just a little performance anxiety. Find other ways to make her happy.
 

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In Japan, a woman I bedded put the condom on me. She said it was part of lovemaking for her and for many Japanese women.

I can tell you that, if anything, it made things more exciting.

Just something to consider.

Tictac
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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vlf445 said:
In the past 5 months I've finally managed to attract some girls n get them in bed. But every time I go to put on the condom, I cant stay hard...It immediately kills the mood with the girl, n leaves her a little more than unhappy. When I finally got with another girl it happened again, and then with the next girl...Im only 19 years old, so I feel like this should definately not be happening. Its killing my confidence...please offer any advice you have.
Hey man. I use to have this problem. So I did everything I could to get rid of the problem.

I did PC Muscle Exercises
Less masturbating
More zinc and magnesium
I ate more foods with L-argenine in


After a week of doing this I was solid as a rock. I guarentee if you do all these, you won't ever have that problem ever again.
 

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dont wear a condom... simple
or tell them condom makes you shrink due to its plastic material
 
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