"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is a doozy help needed so I don't make myself look bad

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Gents

The lady I was dating recently broke up with me. It happened quick and thinks were going great. **** happens.

Last Sunday I was at a bar near her house I never go to. I had a buddy who lives near there and I figured since it was a sports bar no chance I would run into her.

Well as I'm leaving I thought I heard her and saw her in the booth behind me. So I checked my phone since I snapped a selfie of me when I got home and I **** you not her ex fiancé was in the pic. What a photo bomb. For Xmas I gave her a 400 dollar coat

Would there be anything wrong texting her to ask if she was at the bar on Sunday
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What? You thought you heard and saw her, then you spotted her ex fiancé in your selfie? Was he located around where you thought you heard and saw her?

You figured there was no chance of running into her, but would she have a problem with you going to a bar with a friend?

I feel like there's some missing information here.
 
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I was there with a group of my friends. I never go here it was just a coincidence. I'm almost 100 percent it was her
 
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Yeah, but what I wanted to know is if her ex fiancé was around her. This isn't clear from your description of the situation, just that he got into the selfie you took and was in the same bar. Were they talking or something is what I want to know, if they were I would just move on. Not sure what you really want help with here?

That 400 dollar coat is likely lost though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I sort of just want to let her know, I get why she wasn't into us the whole time since I would imagine he was in the pic all 4 months
 
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Sure go ahead, but you won't get anything good out of it. I would advise against it and just move on.
 
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I thought so. I was just going to say hey I thought I saw you at this bar on Sunday. Drop it at that
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think you just want to text her by using an excuse. You know it was her at the bar and she broke up with you.

So yeah, she was potentially cheating on you, but it's over now.

So I don't really understand why are you trying to accomplish by texting her...
 
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