"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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this girl is into me, and now im suddenly getting the cold shoulder

garruk

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so this girl is into me, has sent me a text about hanging out and asked me in person when i saw her at a party recently.

however, i was drunk and i somehow only BRIEFLY had a convesation with her before talking to other girls (many of whom were her friends yikes!). fast forward 2 days, i call her and she doesnt pick up. 1 day later, i IM her and she logs off.

like wtf... do i just next her at this point? i was acutally sort of interested in this girl, LTR material. intelligent, worldly and NOT a hoe (which is rare for sorority girls). anyhow, i would appreciate any all advice because im seirously confused. and im really worried i might be getting some oneitis =(. ugh.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MeteorMash

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Girls are fickle. And yes you might be getting a mild case of oneitis. Just forget her (She's ignored you twice. If she wants to talk now it's up to her to follow through)

Move on to other girls
 

sodbuster

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SOME women just want to see if you are interested-does not mean they are interested in you,just the validation that they are hot
 

Vikman

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She might never have been interested in you in the first place. Or she changed her mind.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tkman

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Ignore her for now, if she text message you back ... let her know your busy. Let her chase you.
 

Plinco

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That's fantastic! Now you know that you have potential with some random girl, and in the meantime you are free to see other girls that might have some potential as well. Don't sweat it.

EDIT

like everyone else said, don't chase her in the meantime, see if she contacts you again.
 

garruk

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hmm, ok so i guess i should back off a little, im just slightly concerned that maybe shes not answering for good reason (like didnt get my IM before logging off) though im probably just making excuses for myself.

I am pretty sure that shes (or at least was) into me though for those curious. Between her text to me and the party in which i semi-ignored her, i hung out with her and a mutual friend in her sorority. It was a little awkward but it was a random chance encounter and i just sat down with them for a little while. but during the meeting, it was pretty obvious she was trying to get close to me.
 

Metaphysical

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She just wanted some d!ck you fool.

You probably said something to indicate you want to take it slow and 'date' and creeped her out.

How often do you hear a woman asking a man out? Not often. She wanted your d!ck! You dragged it out too long and she got irritated and said "fvck this fool."
 
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