"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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this girl is into me, and now im suddenly getting the cold shoulder

garruk

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so this girl is into me, has sent me a text about hanging out and asked me in person when i saw her at a party recently.

however, i was drunk and i somehow only BRIEFLY had a convesation with her before talking to other girls (many of whom were her friends yikes!). fast forward 2 days, i call her and she doesnt pick up. 1 day later, i IM her and she logs off.

like wtf... do i just next her at this point? i was acutally sort of interested in this girl, LTR material. intelligent, worldly and NOT a hoe (which is rare for sorority girls). anyhow, i would appreciate any all advice because im seirously confused. and im really worried i might be getting some oneitis =(. ugh.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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MeteorMash

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Girls are fickle. And yes you might be getting a mild case of oneitis. Just forget her (She's ignored you twice. If she wants to talk now it's up to her to follow through)

Move on to other girls
 

sodbuster

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SOME women just want to see if you are interested-does not mean they are interested in you,just the validation that they are hot
 

Vikman

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She might never have been interested in you in the first place. Or she changed her mind.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tkman

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Ignore her for now, if she text message you back ... let her know your busy. Let her chase you.
 

Plinco

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That's fantastic! Now you know that you have potential with some random girl, and in the meantime you are free to see other girls that might have some potential as well. Don't sweat it.

EDIT

like everyone else said, don't chase her in the meantime, see if she contacts you again.
 

garruk

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hmm, ok so i guess i should back off a little, im just slightly concerned that maybe shes not answering for good reason (like didnt get my IM before logging off) though im probably just making excuses for myself.

I am pretty sure that shes (or at least was) into me though for those curious. Between her text to me and the party in which i semi-ignored her, i hung out with her and a mutual friend in her sorority. It was a little awkward but it was a random chance encounter and i just sat down with them for a little while. but during the meeting, it was pretty obvious she was trying to get close to me.
 

Metaphysical

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She just wanted some d!ck you fool.

You probably said something to indicate you want to take it slow and 'date' and creeped her out.

How often do you hear a woman asking a man out? Not often. She wanted your d!ck! You dragged it out too long and she got irritated and said "fvck this fool."
 
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