"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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this girl is into me, and now im suddenly getting the cold shoulder

garruk

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so this girl is into me, has sent me a text about hanging out and asked me in person when i saw her at a party recently.

however, i was drunk and i somehow only BRIEFLY had a convesation with her before talking to other girls (many of whom were her friends yikes!). fast forward 2 days, i call her and she doesnt pick up. 1 day later, i IM her and she logs off.

like wtf... do i just next her at this point? i was acutally sort of interested in this girl, LTR material. intelligent, worldly and NOT a hoe (which is rare for sorority girls). anyhow, i would appreciate any all advice because im seirously confused. and im really worried i might be getting some oneitis =(. ugh.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MeteorMash

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Girls are fickle. And yes you might be getting a mild case of oneitis. Just forget her (She's ignored you twice. If she wants to talk now it's up to her to follow through)

Move on to other girls
 

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SOME women just want to see if you are interested-does not mean they are interested in you,just the validation that they are hot
 

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She might never have been interested in you in the first place. Or she changed her mind.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tkman

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Ignore her for now, if she text message you back ... let her know your busy. Let her chase you.
 

Plinco

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That's fantastic! Now you know that you have potential with some random girl, and in the meantime you are free to see other girls that might have some potential as well. Don't sweat it.

EDIT

like everyone else said, don't chase her in the meantime, see if she contacts you again.
 

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hmm, ok so i guess i should back off a little, im just slightly concerned that maybe shes not answering for good reason (like didnt get my IM before logging off) though im probably just making excuses for myself.

I am pretty sure that shes (or at least was) into me though for those curious. Between her text to me and the party in which i semi-ignored her, i hung out with her and a mutual friend in her sorority. It was a little awkward but it was a random chance encounter and i just sat down with them for a little while. but during the meeting, it was pretty obvious she was trying to get close to me.
 

Metaphysical

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She just wanted some d!ck you fool.

You probably said something to indicate you want to take it slow and 'date' and creeped her out.

How often do you hear a woman asking a man out? Not often. She wanted your d!ck! You dragged it out too long and she got irritated and said "fvck this fool."
 
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