Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This Chick asked me....???

Todd Preston

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The following questions always leave me speechless or a little uncomfortable.

What do you say when a HB asks you;

1) "Do you have a girlfriend?"

2) "Are you dating anyone?"

:eek:

I usually end up with my foot in my mouth and don't know how to respond. I wanna give a good impression (that i'm no chump) but if i say i am dating...they think i'm a playa. If i say i have a girlfriend, they think i'm hands off..(sigh)

HELP me out (please)...!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Your kidding right..

If you want to pick her up or whatever, you say...

No you don't have a gf and no you are not dating anyone right now

if you are, you lie.
 

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gungho said:
Your kidding right..

If you want to pick her up or whatever, you say...

No you don't have a gf and no you are not dating anyone right now

if you are, you lie.
yep
 

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gungho said:
Your kidding right..

If you want to pick her up or whatever, you say...

No you don't have a gf and no you are not dating anyone right now

if you are, you lie.
I think what he's afraid of is that if he says he's single he thinks the girl will think he's some loser because he isn't dating. Or at least that's what it seems like based on how he wrote that.

Personally I'd just say I'm single, then ask her out.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Joke!

Todd Preston said:
The following questions always leave me speechless or a little uncomfortable.

What do you say when a HB asks you;

1) "Do you have a girlfriend?"

2) "Are you dating anyone?"


:eek:

I usually end up with my foot in my mouth and don't know how to respond. I wanna give a good impression (that i'm no chump) but if i say i am dating...they think i'm a playa. If i say i have a girlfriend, they think i'm hands off..(sigh)

HELP me out (please)...!
Is this a joke? How old are you?
 

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Door number 3 is correct.

Truth is...i am usually seeing somone (even if its just a FB).

So...i gather the concensus is to lie...

Why do you have to lie?

PS. Please don't ask me how old i am. If you don't have anything CONSTRUCTIVE to say...than...don't say anything. If you don't get the question, then ask for clarification. (SIGH)

Thank you!



Kal0051 said:
I think what he's afraid of is that if he says he's single he thinks the girl will think he's some loser because he isn't dating. Or at least that's what it seems like based on how he wrote that.

Personally I'd just say I'm single, then ask her out.
 

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She's interested in you. "You want to be my gf. I can see why."
 

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She's interested in you. "You want to be my gf.I can see why."
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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fertileTurtle

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What's wrong with SS posting?
 

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I would say something c&f like "yeah, I'm dating about 20 different girls right now."

The other day a girl asked me if I'd ever been married and I looked right at her and with a ****y face and attitude said "only 3 times." She knew I was lying by my expression and thought it was pretty funny.
 

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I'm honest all the time, if I'm dating someone, I'll say so, if I'm not, I'll say I'm single. ._.
Why wouldn't you be honest?
I thought the whole point of the whole DJ thing was to better yourself, not to lie to get women.
Getting women doesn't make you a better person.
You make you a better person, and "you" shouldn't make sh!t up.


I've been asked by a few hot chicks whether I'm seeing anybody, and I pretty much just look them up and down and say "why? you interested?".
Gets me a dance and a kiss most times, eventually.

That's pretty much how I got my first real girlfriend.
 

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It really depends on what you want with the girl. If you don't like her, you can say whatever you want. It doesn't matter. If you do like her. Say, why do you wanna know or it depends? Then smile at her. See where it goes. Be playful with her. You shouldn't be taking her seriously. Trust me she'll be attracted to you even more. If you become serious and start answering her questions like she's your supervisor or something it'll lead to nowhere.

With your situation, next time another girl asks you tell her exactly this. You know it's weird because I get that question from girls a lot. Why'd you ask? Bro, make it seem like she's applying for you and she is, because you ARE the Great Catch!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just tell the truth and be one hundred with yourself...
 

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Ok...now we are getting somewhere.

Yeah...Joke around with the question with a ****y funny response.

Thanks Dudes....i was beginning to get discouraged by the disparaging remarks from some posters but the later remarks make sense.

(geez...i don't know where some of these punks come from but i guess they aren't doing so well)
 
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You have one woman who is interested in you and suddenly you feel like you're a bigshot?

What an interesting perspective of yourself. :moon:
 

Hughman

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Taken men are more desirable than single men.

So A&A that ****- 'Yes I'm taken. Taken by about 4 different women, including a glamour model. Let me check my schedule to fit you in!'

Or words to that affect.

Hell, if she does ever find out you have multiple plates, you weren't lying!
 

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Huh?

:confused:

(this guys obviously having a bad day,,,:cry: )


Energizer said:
You have one woman who is interested in you and suddenly you feel like you're a bigshot?

What an interesting perspective of yourself. :moon:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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