starfishandcoffee
Don Juan
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I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thinking of deleting Facebook. Anyone sad they got themselves roped into it?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thundernuts
Senior Don Juan
Easy, man take all the really personal **** off your facebook. Less is more, if you are filling your facebook with your life story then it strips you of your mystery. My brother and uncle, both of whom are just the ideal don juans, have told me time and time again don't post personal **** on facebook. If you have nothing on there it gives them something to ask about, take back your mystique.
actionjaxson
Don Juan
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just hide everything and make it seem like you dont use it. i got no wall, status updates or any of that ****. i only use it for my friends.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I can understand wanting to delete your Facebook if you're out of college, but it has become such a huge focal point of college that I've seen people been weirded out when somebody says they don't have Facebook. Literally everyone I know at my University has Facebook except for very anti-social people.
Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.
If you're out of college then I don't see much point in it though.
Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.
If you're out of college then I don't see much point in it though.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
So this is what you do, you ONLY have family and friends on your Facebook and DON'T add anyone who doesn't fall into that category.starfishandcoffee said:
Then, you don't post every ridiculous detail of your life on it.
See how easy that was?
I am so glad I graduated before any of these websites came out and became "popular". If having a Facebook is the new social standard for normalcy, then our futures are all doomed.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
I'm on facebook, but I don't think I've lost any mystery about me. Occasionally friends will take pictures of me at a party and post it on there. That's about it.starfishandcoffee said:
Just don't post messages on there. "I'm at work!" "I'm driving home!" "I'm eating a burger!" That's how you lose mystery. This one old girlfriend of mine will write crap like "Finally! My basement is clean!" Christ...why does the world need to know that?
I use it to contact old friends and that's it. No messages. No status updates. Not a whole lot of pictures.
Sir Psycho Sexy
Senior Don Juan
your doing it wrong if you feel like you have no mystery.
-Make it so no one but yourself can see tagged photos of you. Friends will only be able to see photos that you put up.
-Get rid of almost all info about yourself
-Make it so no one but yourself can see tagged photos of you. Friends will only be able to see photos that you put up.
-Get rid of almost all info about yourself
loveshogun
Master Don Juan
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My 2 cents.
Back then, literally the only thing you could do on there was show people who you were friends. Pretty useless, but it was harmless because there was nothing keeping me glued to my screen.
But, that all changed gradually, and more and more I found myself trying to "keep up" with lots of people I don't actually care about, just because I can.
If you're anything like me, you're around computers all the time. And Facebook - "simulated intimacy" - was a huge roadblock to me actually going and visiting my friends who weren't only a 15 minute drive away.
For me, personally, I just found that Facebook gave me the illusion of being in touch with people, when really I wasn't.
So, I quit around March this year and haven't looked back.
I challenge you to do it for 3 weeks. You'll be surprised how little you miss it as long as you have other more important things going on.
Plus, anyone can invite you to stuff on Facebook. Only the people who REALLY want to see you will call.
I'd been on Facebook since way back when it was TheFacebook, and they'd just had about 11 schools. This was before Walls, before News Feed, before Photo albums.Thundernuts said:
Back then, literally the only thing you could do on there was show people who you were friends. Pretty useless, but it was harmless because there was nothing keeping me glued to my screen.
But, that all changed gradually, and more and more I found myself trying to "keep up" with lots of people I don't actually care about, just because I can.
If you're anything like me, you're around computers all the time. And Facebook - "simulated intimacy" - was a huge roadblock to me actually going and visiting my friends who weren't only a 15 minute drive away.
For me, personally, I just found that Facebook gave me the illusion of being in touch with people, when really I wasn't.
So, I quit around March this year and haven't looked back.
I challenge you to do it for 3 weeks. You'll be surprised how little you miss it as long as you have other more important things going on.
Plus, anyone can invite you to stuff on Facebook. Only the people who REALLY want to see you will call.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.