"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Thinking of deleting Facebook. Anyone sad they got themselves roped into it?

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I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Thundernuts

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Easy, man take all the really personal **** off your facebook. Less is more, if you are filling your facebook with your life story then it strips you of your mystery. My brother and uncle, both of whom are just the ideal don juans, have told me time and time again don't post personal **** on facebook. If you have nothing on there it gives them something to ask about, take back your mystique.
 

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Just get rid of all photos and make it not publish everything you do. Done.
 

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just hide everything and make it seem like you dont use it. i got no wall, status updates or any of that ****. i only use it for my friends.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I can understand wanting to delete your Facebook if you're out of college, but it has become such a huge focal point of college that I've seen people been weirded out when somebody says they don't have Facebook. Literally everyone I know at my University has Facebook except for very anti-social people.

Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.

If you're out of college then I don't see much point in it though.
 

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starfishandcoffee said:
I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
So this is what you do, you ONLY have family and friends on your Facebook and DON'T add anyone who doesn't fall into that category.

Then, you don't post every ridiculous detail of your life on it.

See how easy that was?




I can understand wanting to delete your Facebook if you're out of college, but it has become such a huge focal point of college that I've seen people been weirded out when somebody says they don't have Facebook. Literally everyone I know at my University has Facebook except for very anti-social people.

Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.
I am so glad I graduated before any of these websites came out and became "popular". If having a Facebook is the new social standard for normalcy, then our futures are all doomed.
 

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starfishandcoffee said:
I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
I'm on facebook, but I don't think I've lost any mystery about me. Occasionally friends will take pictures of me at a party and post it on there. That's about it.

Just don't post messages on there. "I'm at work!" "I'm driving home!" "I'm eating a burger!" That's how you lose mystery. This one old girlfriend of mine will write crap like "Finally! My basement is clean!" Christ...why does the world need to know that?

I use it to contact old friends and that's it. No messages. No status updates. Not a whole lot of pictures.
 

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your doing it wrong if you feel like you have no mystery.

-Make it so no one but yourself can see tagged photos of you. Friends will only be able to see photos that you put up.
-Get rid of almost all info about yourself
 

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My 2 cents.

Thundernuts said:
Easy, man take all the really personal **** off your facebook. Less is more, if you are filling your facebook with your life story then it strips you of your mystery. My brother and uncle, both of whom are just the ideal don juans, have told me time and time again don't post personal **** on facebook. If you have nothing on there it gives them something to ask about, take back your mystique.
I'd been on Facebook since way back when it was TheFacebook, and they'd just had about 11 schools. This was before Walls, before News Feed, before Photo albums.

Back then, literally the only thing you could do on there was show people who you were friends. Pretty useless, but it was harmless because there was nothing keeping me glued to my screen.

But, that all changed gradually, and more and more I found myself trying to "keep up" with lots of people I don't actually care about, just because I can.

If you're anything like me, you're around computers all the time. And Facebook - "simulated intimacy" - was a huge roadblock to me actually going and visiting my friends who weren't only a 15 minute drive away.

For me, personally, I just found that Facebook gave me the illusion of being in touch with people, when really I wasn't.

So, I quit around March this year and haven't looked back.

I challenge you to do it for 3 weeks. You'll be surprised how little you miss it as long as you have other more important things going on.

Plus, anyone can invite you to stuff on Facebook. Only the people who REALLY want to see you will call.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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