starfishandcoffee
Don Juan
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I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
So this is what you do, you ONLY have family and friends on your Facebook and DON'T add anyone who doesn't fall into that category.starfishandcoffee said:I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
I am so glad I graduated before any of these websites came out and became "popular". If having a Facebook is the new social standard for normalcy, then our futures are all doomed.I can understand wanting to delete your Facebook if you're out of college, but it has become such a huge focal point of college that I've seen people been weirded out when somebody says they don't have Facebook. Literally everyone I know at my University has Facebook except for very anti-social people.
Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.
I'm on facebook, but I don't think I've lost any mystery about me. Occasionally friends will take pictures of me at a party and post it on there. That's about it.starfishandcoffee said:I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
I'd been on Facebook since way back when it was TheFacebook, and they'd just had about 11 schools. This was before Walls, before News Feed, before Photo albums.Thundernuts said:Easy, man take all the really personal **** off your facebook. Less is more, if you are filling your facebook with your life story then it strips you of your mystery. My brother and uncle, both of whom are just the ideal don juans, have told me time and time again don't post personal **** on facebook. If you have nothing on there it gives them something to ask about, take back your mystique.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.