starfishandcoffee
Don Juan
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I love the ability to talk with family and old friends on there, but I hate the feeling of having no mystery about me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thinking of deleting Facebook. Anyone sad they got themselves roped into it?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thundernuts
Senior Don Juan
Easy, man take all the really personal **** off your facebook. Less is more, if you are filling your facebook with your life story then it strips you of your mystery. My brother and uncle, both of whom are just the ideal don juans, have told me time and time again don't post personal **** on facebook. If you have nothing on there it gives them something to ask about, take back your mystique.
actionjaxson
Don Juan
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just hide everything and make it seem like you dont use it. i got no wall, status updates or any of that ****. i only use it for my friends.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I can understand wanting to delete your Facebook if you're out of college, but it has become such a huge focal point of college that I've seen people been weirded out when somebody says they don't have Facebook. Literally everyone I know at my University has Facebook except for very anti-social people.
Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.
If you're out of college then I don't see much point in it though.
Facebook can also be a great way to increase your social proof if you have a lot of pictures with you and a bunch of girls, at parties, doing exciting stuff, etc.
If you're out of college then I don't see much point in it though.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
So this is what you do, you ONLY have family and friends on your Facebook and DON'T add anyone who doesn't fall into that category.starfishandcoffee said:
Then, you don't post every ridiculous detail of your life on it.
See how easy that was?
I am so glad I graduated before any of these websites came out and became "popular". If having a Facebook is the new social standard for normalcy, then our futures are all doomed.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
I'm on facebook, but I don't think I've lost any mystery about me. Occasionally friends will take pictures of me at a party and post it on there. That's about it.starfishandcoffee said:
Just don't post messages on there. "I'm at work!" "I'm driving home!" "I'm eating a burger!" That's how you lose mystery. This one old girlfriend of mine will write crap like "Finally! My basement is clean!" Christ...why does the world need to know that?
I use it to contact old friends and that's it. No messages. No status updates. Not a whole lot of pictures.
Sir Psycho Sexy
Senior Don Juan
your doing it wrong if you feel like you have no mystery.
-Make it so no one but yourself can see tagged photos of you. Friends will only be able to see photos that you put up.
-Get rid of almost all info about yourself
-Make it so no one but yourself can see tagged photos of you. Friends will only be able to see photos that you put up.
-Get rid of almost all info about yourself
loveshogun
Master Don Juan
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My 2 cents.
Back then, literally the only thing you could do on there was show people who you were friends. Pretty useless, but it was harmless because there was nothing keeping me glued to my screen.
But, that all changed gradually, and more and more I found myself trying to "keep up" with lots of people I don't actually care about, just because I can.
If you're anything like me, you're around computers all the time. And Facebook - "simulated intimacy" - was a huge roadblock to me actually going and visiting my friends who weren't only a 15 minute drive away.
For me, personally, I just found that Facebook gave me the illusion of being in touch with people, when really I wasn't.
So, I quit around March this year and haven't looked back.
I challenge you to do it for 3 weeks. You'll be surprised how little you miss it as long as you have other more important things going on.
Plus, anyone can invite you to stuff on Facebook. Only the people who REALLY want to see you will call.
I'd been on Facebook since way back when it was TheFacebook, and they'd just had about 11 schools. This was before Walls, before News Feed, before Photo albums.Thundernuts said:
Back then, literally the only thing you could do on there was show people who you were friends. Pretty useless, but it was harmless because there was nothing keeping me glued to my screen.
But, that all changed gradually, and more and more I found myself trying to "keep up" with lots of people I don't actually care about, just because I can.
If you're anything like me, you're around computers all the time. And Facebook - "simulated intimacy" - was a huge roadblock to me actually going and visiting my friends who weren't only a 15 minute drive away.
For me, personally, I just found that Facebook gave me the illusion of being in touch with people, when really I wasn't.
So, I quit around March this year and haven't looked back.
I challenge you to do it for 3 weeks. You'll be surprised how little you miss it as long as you have other more important things going on.
Plus, anyone can invite you to stuff on Facebook. Only the people who REALLY want to see you will call.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.