"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Things I Have Learned

lordclem*

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enlighting post afterbuzz.

The only thing that matters with a woman is now. What she thought of you 10 minutes ago is probably different from what she thinks of you now and what she might think of you 10 minutes from now. So don’t worry about what she thinks of you.*******

that is what i am working on now,you totaly touched me with this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm glad. Its an important point. A lot of guys get discouraged too easily.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Role reversal and neg-hits work wonderfully together. It makes the women want you more. If you use just those 2 tactics(and other basics), u will see the true power of seduction.
 

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Good tips. I love it when guys post their tips on here, it always helps me think about things in a different light. I'm going to have to post some of mine once I get them out of my head!

Vanilla was the earliest perfume as my mother has often told me.

Maybe spilling Vanilla Coke on yourself will work!
 

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Another tip... the smell of Baby Powder has been shown to turn women on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AFTERBUZZ, I think I've fallen in love with you. Fvckin A, Great Post, IMA PRINT THIS OUT
 

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Holy shiet nice post man! I'mma try that vanilla thing ... if anything, I'll always smell good dammit!
 

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Hey Afterbuzz, that was a good post.

I'm still stuck on one point and I'm too brain-dead to think. What do you mean when you say...

"Jealousy is the LBJF's best friend?" Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you have any points on dealing with jealousy besides the one already stated? I'm with a girl who's super hot, but she dresses a little bit tight and stuff (she's always dressed like that, ever before me and her were together) and it's gets me jealous thinking of the attention I know she gets when I'm not around.. Any advice on how to deal with this? Anyone?
 

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Due to the chance of this being deleted due to time, Matrix has requested me to bump this for it to stay in the High School bible. Thank you.
 

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There were only two posts i've ever printed out from here when i started... This one and pook's Be a Man.




This is THE best advice from this thread. Print it on your heart:

Do not ask permission to do or say anything. Never ask a woman if you can kiss them, hug them, hold them, f*ck them, etc.
Never ask questions that are designed to find out what she thinks of you.

Enough said, i wish buzz was still around.
 

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bump
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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