Hey I have a huge dilemma that I need help with ASAP. I’m going out with this girl that I extremely like, well the problem is that its been a month now and I feel like things are kind of dieing out, like that spark is missing. It could be of many reasons maybe because we’ve only had sex 3 times in the past month, or because were so dyam busy with school and work and when we do find time were tired. What should I do?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Things Are Dieing Out Quick Help!!!!!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
amoka
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Is she your girlfriend? If not, are you trying to make her your girfriend? If not why worry things are dying out? If you want her to be your girlfriend and she is not doing much or not her interest level is dying out, just let her go. Let her be the one worrying whether you are the "hit and run" type of guy. She should be doing more to want to be your girlfriend, not the other way around. I would halt all communications with her, for at least a two weeks. If she does not call you, so be it. If she calls, talk to her and book a date with her.
Yea we've been going out for a month now, actually tonight is our one month, and before all this we were friends for 2 years. I can't really explain how much I’ve learned in the past 2 years lets just say I accomplished more in 2 months than I did 2 years, but that’s another story. She’s showing me a lot of affection, but you know when you have something you doubt it and when you don't you feel loss?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
hey, i've been friends with this chick also, we're good friends and lately i started to like her as more than friends, how did you transition to that next level. moving out of the friendzone? was it a slow process or happened all the sudden?rob23 said:
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honestly my situation was pretty bad, i didn't make a move on her for 2 years and let her ex run the "game".
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/escaping.htm
it helped me a lot got me where i am now, but honestly ive realized getting the girl is the easy part, but actually getting her to stay is the hard part.
honestly my situation was pretty bad, i didn't make a move on her for 2 years and let her ex run the "game".
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/escaping.htm
it helped me a lot got me where i am now, but honestly ive realized getting the girl is the easy part, but actually getting her to stay is the hard part.
NickSCFC2000
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There's a seperate forum for school children's problems.
Please use that one.
Please use that one.
Prodigy746
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Do some action dates, they are always fun