"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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They are friends who do i ask out first?

dudeman99

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So theirs two chicks who i want to get with. They seem to be cool with each other i don't know how close they are.

How do i figure out who to ask out 1st? Is it ok to ask em both out a couple days apart??

If one says no would she talk to the other?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chickfight

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It's very likely the other one will find out about it, whether she said no or yes. So I'd ask the one that's most likely to say yes.
 

dudeman99

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Damn none of them showed up to club 2day.

Now I got to try using facebook.

I guess I'll try teasing a girl and see if I can get her to come out. If not then I'll try the other 1 a few days later.
 

dudeman99

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LOl sorry i meant a college activity culb not a dance club. The chicks are members there. I only run into them at club meetings. I think that's also when they see each other.

Last week I was talking to both for about 15 min after the meeting ended.
 

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I had this happen to me a few years ago, I was gaming a girl, that was quite cute. Then she introduced me, that's where she ****ed up, with a friend of hers, who was just as cute. Both made it known on so many terms that they were interested. However, the newer friend, was a little more brazen, and took matters into her own hands, whereas the other one was on reserve, and had a guy in the background that she was on again off again, I like you and I still like him sorta thing, the new girl took me to the movies and blew me in the car, that pretty much sealed the deal.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dudeman99

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Great story breaker though I dont think I have them fighting to see who's going to give me a bj.

I sent one a message on fb "(name)..how am I supposed to be mean to you when you don't come to club?"

Then she sent me one "(name)..how am i supposed to come to club when i have chem lab?

Seems like i wont be running into her unless i try to get her to meet up. Sucks that I can't do it in person.

I haven't sent her a reply yet, I haven't thought of what to say next.
 
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